2ND Child 10years on!

[CClarence84]

Not sure in in the right thread, just looking for a bit of advice.

We have a 10year old and have over the past year became very broody (never even thought of having another till now).
The idea just fills me with joy and hope of doing things "different" this time, we were young when had DS and it was hard going on both of us but we did it and are stronger for it.
We are concerned the impact a baby might have on him, he is the our world and isn't used to having to share us...he was a bit jealous when we got a dog!

Any advice or just chats would be really helpful xxCxx

There is 11 years between me and my sister, it was a little tough when she was first born, i was just going into secondary school, but now I'm 24, we're closer than ever. Have you asked him about it?

I have mentioned it to him in passing but he never really takes it on to be honest...he used to say he wanted a bother when he was little but he's not that fussed about it now.
We are all happy I just don't want to potentially ruin things buy brining another baby into our world. I think I'm feeling a bit selfish because its my want xxCxx

There are 8 years between DSS and DS. It was tricky at first with a newborn and doing the school run etc but having a brother has been very good for DSS. He had the potential to be quite spoilt and attention seeking (possibly down to his DM leaving and seeing her eow and a fair amount of Disney parenting from her) but becoming a big brother has been the making of him I think plus DS absolutely dotes on him.
While I can understand why you would worry about your pfb and his reaction to a sibling, be wary of actually asking his permission. It must be totally your and your OH 's decision.
10 is a nice age though and be quite helpful too If you feel it's right for you then go for it

I have a ten year gap between my DC

DD did ask periodically for a sibling and was overjoyed when DS came along.
Now at 16yrs and 6yrs she's a bit meh with him but they do adore each other really. It does feel like having 2 only children at times because they don't really do much together so I end up doing more 1:1 things with each of them. They did bake fairy cakes this afternoon together though and she read him a story tonight. So I suppose they definitely have a relationship but a different kind to what a closer gap would've been like perhaps.

I thank my lucky stars every day DS entered into our family as I love him to bits. DD did notice a change as his needs are taken into account now too and it's not 100% about what she wants to do, I think she's a typical teen though and life wouldn't be much different for her if we only had her, I did do a lot of reassuring in the early days that she was still loved beyond words and my heart had enough room for her, DS and DH.

Go for it

Thanks so much ladies, it really makes a difference hearing other people's experiences. Most friends had kids close together or haven't started a family yet so it's hard to get an informed opinion xxxCxx

My DD was 10 in October and I had my DS 12/12/14. She was a bit jealous at first and played up a little bit but 4 months on and she absolutely adores DS. I think now he smiles and laughs at her it's easier. I do try to make sure we still have time to play games and do things just the 2 of us on a weekly basis which we both look forward to. So far it's been far easier than I expected. I think like yourself I worried far too much and felt guilty for bringing a new baby into the household ??