Third child thoughts

[Changedup]

Hi all,

Just after some thoughts/opinions. I have 2 beautiful but both very spirited dds. Dd1 is 3.4 years old and dd2 is 14 months. Id really love another child at some point but not for a while. I'd like dd1 to be at school so probably wouldn't think about ttc for a year at the v least. Dd1 would be approx 5.5 and dd2 approx 3.3 ( obviously if all goes well and we conceive quickly). I'm just wondering whether these age gaps would be ok or if the third would feel left out cos of the small gap between dd1&2. Also I'd be mid 30s by then. Is this too late to try for / have a third.

I can't help thinking about this and although I don't want another child right now I want to think it's still a possibility.

Does anyone have similar age gaps at a similar age?

I had my third when I was 42 and there is a five and half year age gap.

Problems with such a big age gap include organising a family day out that we all enjoy... Your planned age gap seems smaller though!

Thanks cece. Yeah my 'planned' go is less but this may all change depending on how long it takes to conceive.

Hope you dont mind me asking but was this your planned age gap? What is the age gap between dc 1 & 2?

I was 37 when I had dc3.

dc1 was 5yr 3m at the time.
There are 2y4 months between dc1 and dc2 and
2yr10month between dc2 and dc3.
There are 3 school yrs between each.

So not that different from you.
No issues at all about the different age gaps. Not sure why you think it would be an issue, tbh - you aren't talking about 10 years or something

I had dc3 at 35, with a five yr age gap from dcs 1-3. Depends how long it might take to ttc

I have a 2y gap followed by a 4y gap, and had dc3 when I was 40.

At first it was very much like having two families, especially for outings and sleep. But they all played with each other. Rarely all 3 at the same time, usually one pair, but the pairing varied.

Be warned, though: we did not plan for a 4y gap. Dc1&2 were conceived very quickly. Dc3 took a lot longer.

My two have a 4 year gap. I love it my daughter so so helpful when my son came along. Both my children are bad sleepers. We were considering a 3rd child but have decided to put it off for a year or two. X.

I have 3 dds had my 3rd when I was 36. When my dd3 was born (July) my dd1 was just about to start school in the September after turning 5 in the August. So there is 2 years and 5 months between dd1 and dd2 and there is 2 years and 3 months between dd2 and dd3. They are now 7, 5 and 2. They are all great entertainment for each other (squabble like mad too though!) Dd1 and dd2 are now both in school and great pals and play a lot together and now that dd3 is nearly 3 she is also really starting to play with them as opposed to being mothered by them which was the case before. I find dd1 and dd2 play great together and squabble too and dd2 and dd3 play great and also squabble then the relationship between dd1 and dd3 is a more mothery/ protective relationship. The fact that they are all the same gender and reasonably close in age means that day trips etc are easy they all love the same things and want to do similar things which makes life way easier. Best of luck with whatever you decide but I have no regrets love my 3 girls

Your planned age gaps are not that different so I wouldn't be too worried. There is a 3y 9 m gap between my DC1 and DC2 and they play well together and a 2 y 8 m gap between DC2 and DC3 and they play well together too. DC1 and 3 don't play that much but he looks out for her, they are 8 and 2. I expect the dynamics will change as they get older. The gaps work well for us. There are 3 school years between each pairing.