Why do I always feel like the bad guy?!

[chan321]

My daughter is 15 months and starting to really assert herself and throw strops/tantrums so obviously I'm being firm with her where necessary BUT when I do she cries!!!! Not even just when she's being 'tantrumy' but even if it's that I want to put her baby grow on but she doesn't want to she sobs! Makes me feel awful but then I can't let her have her own way all the time! I adore my daughter and have always put a million and one per cent of my love and effort into her and I just feel like she she doesn't like me half the time :(

Please don't take it personally, it's entirely normal. But on the other hand plesse don't see it as "naughty behaviour". At this age throwing tantrums is just her way of communicating because she can't talk yet so whenever she feels restricted or frustrated in any way, this is how she expresses it. All you need to do is adopt a firm voice but do not shout or stand over her as this is intimidating and will frighten her. These battles are an entirely normal stage of her developing her personality and you teaching her how to behave - it's certainly not a sign of anything being wrong with your relationship. However I would say she's a bit too old for baby gros and you may find pyjamas easier all round at night time.

Ds is 16 months and can cry great big, theatrical tears at the drop of a hat at the moment. Fairly big tantrums follow any misbehaviour on my part, such as peeling his banana, throwing away the nappy bag full of poo, stuff like that. You can't take it personally, I think it's just their age. It doesn't make it any easier though does it. She does like you, you're her world, but they're too young to appreciate us!

Mommabear I have never and would never shout at her, I'm just very firm with her when need be, I see it as laying the foundations for good behaviour later on... I don't see the harm in baby grows though, lovely and comfy for her.

Off topic...but what's wrong with older babies in babygros? Comfy, warm and very cute.

Nothing wrong with babygrows but I certainly found pyjamas meant for less tantrummy bedtimes as they're so much easier and quicker to put on!

What's wrong with baby gros? All the bloody poppers!! I had to give up on them when dd was ten months as she wriggled away every time I tried! Just thought it might make life a bit easier!