My children aged 6 and 10 had a stomach bug - a few days later invited to sister-in-law for family get together. They were aware that children had been ill. They had a 3 year old and a 5 week old child. We attended and the next day they attended ours for dinner. 3 year old get stomach bug and a few days later 5 week old gets stomach bug - 24 hour bugs all is well.
However sister-in-law feels it fit to post on Facebook that 'if certain people hadn't attended our house knowing we had a newborn this wouldn't have happened'. She neglected to put that when we attended her children were well the next day (despite her serving our children undercooked chicken that was clearly pink!) and that only after she attended our home the next day (fully knowing of the sickness) bringing both children were her children sick.
She neglected to mention that she brought her children to our house and her raw chicken - I have defriended her but she failed to contact me or my husband re: this whilst her husband states to my husband (his brother) that it's all his fault.
I don't have a good relationship with my sister-in-law but why mislead the facts and post it on Facebook. This is a woman who openly tells me her husband can't visit his mother without her approval (he visits her 2 days a year) and makes derogotory comments about all working mothers etc. (yes I am a working mother) using Facebook as her 'trolling weapon'.
How to deal with this - her son has his birthday next week - should I attend or leave dh to attend - should I ignore it and pretend to get on with her when she clearly knows we don't get on - she doesn't say it to my face but posts these comments on Facebook.
Any advice gratefully received.