Borderline PD, How not to f*ck up my kids?

[Blueberryfizz]

Had been diagnosed with bpd in my teens and ignored it until recently when its become very obvious that I definitely do have bpd.

I have been reading some awful things about bpd kids having higher cortisol levels, significantly lower IQ points, worse interpersonal relationships, more psychological problems in adulthood etc.

There are many books on how to heal from a bpd parent. Any literature on how not to f*ck them up in the first place?

I am feeling pretty guilty at the moment about this. I dont want my kids affected by my awful personality.

Therapy. Find someone who integrates child development theory such as Bowlby and/or Stern into their work.

Just some comfort - my dcs have grown up with a mood swinging parent (suspected bpd) and a wheelchair using parent. They are a bit more mature than their classmates, but that may be due to something else.

They are more aware of mental health issues, more supportive of friends affected and quicker to seek help if they think they need it.

When they were younger I thought the mood swings were down to the pain from his back, so they just got used to the fact that he had difficulties at times, and learned not to take it to heart.

There will be plenty of ways to work your bpd to add to their upbringing.

I sometimes wonder if families that do not have difficulties to face can really appreciate life the same way we do. It was difficult when the problems first hit, but now we are used to it, we are stronger, and I think appreciate life more. The rose tinted glasses are off, but after an initial blur the colours are clearer and sharper.

Hope this helps

Thank you both

My sister got diagnosed with BDP few years ago we knew their was something wrong years before hand and the medical staff did nothing for her she was desperate for help and cause they ignored her she deteriorated, felt unwanted around people etc, she had two young kids and the social services took them away from her because they said she was a danger to them to this day she is still fighting to get access to one of her kids, she is a good mother who unfortunately has a medical illness and she's getting treated like the plague, please make sure you get the right help