Sibling relationships

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I have a 3yo and a 4mo. Do you have older children who get on well and have a strong relationship? If so, what did you/didn't you do that you think helped this grow? Thanks! I love them so much and want them to always be there for each other.

Mine are 7.5 5 & 6wks. The eldest 2 ds are extremely close they share a room. They also play fight and torment the life out of each other, I'm glad there's no actual aggressive fighting between them. There's nothing I particularly did to encourage this I think it's just a relationship between siblings that naturally form that way. I was worried that the relationship with ds3 wouldn't be as good given the age gap but so far they're obsessed with their little Bro I always wanting to help feed and change him and give lots of hugs and kisses also ds3 seems to smile more for his big brothers than anyone else (me included)

Yes my little one loves her big bro so much at the moment. Even when he try to rough play with her! I just want it to continue and don't want him to get fed up with me saying -more gentle, don't roll her over, don't lie on her etc.

Hmm - I didn't do too well at this. My older two are two years apart and have always fought. Choosing different secondary schools for them has finally been the thing to bring them closer. Basically I think letting them be their own person, never making comparisons, trying to recognise their unique individual qualities and being absolutely transparently fair with rewards/punishments - that should all help, in theory.