what's it like being sahm to two toddlers?

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Hi we have 19m gap, currently dd is 2y4m and ds is 9m. I'm going back to work but have had my flexible working request refused so considering long term options. ideally pt but if I can't find it then ft work vs sahm. anyway - I imagine life with two toddlers is quite full on? ive found this mat leave hard and have had pnd but don't want to miss out on their childhoods. all thpights welcome :-)

My two are 2.5yrs apart. We went to a lot of playgroups, coffee mornings etc. Would the NCT be your sort of thing? DC1 always had quiet time in her room in the afternoon when DC2 was asleep which gave me time for myself - whether that was a snooze or book read etc. DC1 started nursery around 3 yrs old, which changed things a bit as well. Plus they played really well together, so I did more supervising that actively joining in to keep the peace. Daughter, then son, like you.

Hope you are feeling better now. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Oh and meant to say, whilst there are days when I could cheerfully bang my head against a brick wall, I wouldn't change it for anything. It has been wonderful. DD is now almost 8 and DS 5 1/2 and I feel honoured to have been able to be at home with them.

I'm a stay at home mum to two boys, ds1 is 2.2 years old and ds2 is 7 months. I'm often on my own because dh is army.
It's full on, but I wouldn't change it for the world. Part of me wants to work but with dh's job, it would be difficult for a variety of reasons. Having 18months between my boys has its challenges but I love the chaos!
No real advice! I just take it a day at time. Baby/toddler groups round my way aren't great so my friends and I tend to meet up a lot at each other's houses or the cafe attached to our married quarters estate. When our husbands are away, we meet up more!

16 months between mine, and I did SAHM for the whole time before they went to school. I would have enjoyed going to work FT much more. BUT I would have also missed loads. And although I often wish I hadn't given up work (career is completely f**ked up now, I'm doing my best to get it back on track) I will always know that I did what I felt in my heart of hearts was the right thing, and I will always feel proud of myself for doing it! It can be really hard. But you get to shape all their experiences and knowledge and values and there is plenty of fun to be had too on the good days!