Is anyone here one of three children?

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I was a bit horrified to read the replies lower down to the post about whether it is a good idea to have three children. A few people said they were one of three and that they felt one child was defintely left out,

Does anyone have any experience of being one of three? What was it like?

I am one of three and about to have my third. I was the only dd and the baby of the family. Did not feel left out - had all my bros' mates to hang out with as well as my friends. I feel my brothers were pretty close but I think we are all closer now we are adults.

My brothers were close in age to and then I came along four years later. I was the youngest grandchild as well - so got a bit of spoiling - although my bros did not do without iyswim. I was also one of three in a one parent family - my dad left when I was four - very rare when I was growing up and in the area we lived in.

Well am the eldest of 4 girls but youngest was born when I was 15 so most of my childhood memories involves being one of 3.

I was 5 when next sis was born so got full on attention till she arrived (as she says I am now 42 so I need to get over it!!). Then I ws 6.5 when sis no 3 arrived. So - yes I did feel a bit left out - remember vividly at night watching TV when they were a bit older and one would be on Mum's lap and the other on Dad's and I was "alone". But that feeling lef tout thing came from Mum just having her hands full with two so close together.

Both sisters would say I got the best deal. they had to share a room - I had my own. They hated being so close together as were expected to play togehter but never really got on. They get on better now but are still very different.

Of course when sis no. 4 arrived the dynamics all changed. We then all had our own little doll to fight over!

I am the youngest of three, my two brothers are 6 and 8 years older than me. For sure, I often felt left out when I was young. I felt left out when my brothers played games that I was too young for, I felt left out when I had to go to bed and leave them playing, and I felt left out when my family would discuss magical experiences that happened before I was born (holidays etc).

But on the other hand, my parents had a lot more money when I was growing up, so could afford to do things with me that my brothers never did, and I got spoilt (in a good way) as the youngest. And I had older brothers to take me to the pub and concerts and introduce me to great music. So its swings and roundabouts. I think being the middle child is probably the hardest.

I'm the eldest of three girls, yes I felt left out a lot, as the other two were at home together (youngest sis was born a few weeks after I started school)

I always said I'd never have three, I do! But I'd like / would have had four ahd it not been for ds1's SN, (still may who knows? Pipe dream tho I suspect) and of xourse, 3 is an essential stepping stone on the way t that, at which we had to pause.

My sisters are stille xtremely close, middle sis and I are polar opposites and get on for only limited timespans together anyway, but I miss having a close relationship with youngest- middle one sabotages that whenever possible (typical middle chils syndrome).

youngest is of course baby to the family, though she's probably nicest too LOL!

I don't think three is ideal. neither do I think it's a disaster. it's just life.

I was one of three with an older sister and a younger brother and roughly two years between us all. We all got along really well - obviously fought a lot as well- but although there were some things we did with just one sibling eg sis and bro both liked football but I didn't - there was never any sense of feeling left out. We were very close.

I'm the oldest of three (my sister is 3 years younger, my brother 5 years younger), and I think it's great for the most part. Alliances change according to mood, situation, etc so my and sister used to gang up on my brother at times, then the younger two would do the same to me, and for a while my brother and I were also very close.

I don't speak to my brother now (major family issues) so I'm extra glad I've got another sibling that I'm close to - my sister lives just down the road and we see each other all the time, speak on the phone several times a week etc.

I'm finding all this very interesting as me and DH are debating having a third. We have two DSs who are very close at the moment and I do worry that having a third would upset the balance of the family. Still want another though.

I'm the eldest of 3, bruv and I were close grwoing up (age gap is 2 years between me and bruv, 5 years between me and little sister)and I feel guilty now about leaving our sister out of our games.
But she promises she didn't feel it, she got all the attention because she was the baby.
Personality types:
me: normal, average life, husband, family, stable
brother: wild, unstable, hectic
sister: same as me.

Little sister and I are now very close, have little to do with brother because he's so much hard work. I'm alwasys loathe to apply "patterns" or "types" to people, it's only marginally better than horroscopes IMO.

I am eldest of 3. We are close as adults and there are no favourites. There is bound to be conflict in families as kids grow up and I do think with 3 one is always left out, but that changes from day to day. To be honest I know more 2 child families with long term probs.My sis - the middle - is the linchpin in the family and keeps us all ticking along smoothly. My mum says having 3 kids is more fun! I would love to have 3 if we can ever afford it.

We are 2 girls and a boy. Sister and I are 1 year apart, brother is 3 years younger than me. (Mum had a miscarriage inbetween). He was left out all through childhood.

I am one of 3. I am the eldest. I have a brother 16 months younger than me, and a sister 9 years younger than me. Our situation is different in that the age gap between me/brother and my sister is so big.

I don't think any of us were left out as such. My sister was always the baby of the family, so got spoilt more - including by me and my brother. In may way, especially when she got to be 8 or 9 she was more like an only child as me and my brother went off to uni.

It was fine.

I'm one of three, and I liked it so much that I've had three children myself.

I am the youngest of 3; one brother is 6 yrs older, other brother is 2.5 yrs older. My mum made us all feel special by saying that oldest brother was first therefore always special, 2nd brother came after a baby they lost so relieved a lot of their pain, and I am the youngest and only girl!

Growing up I think my 2nd brother and I were closest, partly because we were closer in age, but also our personalities were more compatible. Oldest brother was and still is more independant and self-sufficient.

I was the middle child. Hated it when db was born. Kept hoping Mum and Dad would give him away! For years. Couldn't understand why they kept him.

In fact remember pushing him out on the doorstep and shutting the front door!

He says he doesn't remember any of this. But I do. I never got used to him being around. We never got close but I don't push him out the house anymore (he's about 2 feet taller than me!)

I was one of three - i was the eldest, then 2 years later my brother and then 9 years later my other brother. Me and my 1st brother didn't get on until we were over 18 and it was like that without a 3rd child!!!! I doted on my little brother even though we're not that close now and my 1st brother was jealous of my second brother so they never got on. I don't think any child gets left out but I think being in the middle is hard as you're not the oldest or the youngest. Oldest child is the bossy one and the one that has the most battles and has the harshest rules etc. The youngest is everyone's baby and the one that gets away with murder. So where does that leave the middle one? Or that's the way it was in our house. I think that your style as a parent changes with each child. In my mums case she got more relaxed with each child so what are just changes in style can be seen in the first children as preferences or better treatment. I'd love to have 3 kids - and I know plenty of people who have 3 and love it.

I am the eldest of 3 and the middle of six as my dad had been married before and so I had my sis (3.5 yrs younger), my bro 7 yrs younger and then half-siblings - boy/girl twins 8 yrs older and sister 12 yrs older - they also have a younger half-sister (18m younger than I) - i think that is everyone

Always got on well with older half siblings (though eldest is a bit scary!!) and problems with youngers were really down to personality clashes rather than numbers - my little sis would have been an absolute nightmare if she had been older than me - as it was we had to share a bedroom and her uptight attitude did not mix well with my slobby one (we had to draw a boundary) she was much more feisty than me but being older meant I could boss her around a bit

Being married to an only child I feel really lucky to have so many siblings and feel close to them all... families are messy and sometimes having other people who know exactly where you came from is a real comfort.

I'm the middle one of three - but there are big age gaps: my sister was 6 when I was born, I was 4 when my brother was born, so 10 years between us all.

The only 'left out' I felt was mostly when my big sister started mothering her very baby brother, and not wanting to play with her annoying little sister. At that point, I could have done with some help from a parent to figure out a role in the family - have to admit, I did feel 'lost' quite a lot.
Unfortunately, my parents were busy fighting and getting divorced, so the 'lost' feeling got worse - and I did the classic middle child thing of acting out and being the Problem.
BUT thats as much to do with the way being the middle one of three was (not) handled - rather than with being one, IYSWIM.
Just maybe worth noticing the roles kids get into, and trying not to re-inforce them....that goes for ANY size family.
Three is lovely. If I was younger, I'd probably go for a third

I am the eldest.. there are 7 yrs between my brother and I, and 9 between myself and sister. I am 31, so you can do the sums!
I am close to my siblings, but when I was younger I always felt the odd one out in relation to my parents. I don't think it helped matters that I was sent to boarding school at 14, and when my siblings hit 14, they went to school locally.
My parents would say they treat us and did equally, but I disagree, the thing is as a teenager I was quite bitter about this.. but not anymore.
I remember mum saying I was like the practice run where they made their mistakes regarding parenting before my siblings grew up

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I'm the middle one of three girls, all reasonably close together in age, and had a happy time - yes we fell out, but it was never always any particular 2 against 1. I was horrified how shocked my mum was when i told her I was expecting my third, so maybe she has a diffferent take on the story, particularly as she was quite happy to hear no 4 was on it's way

im one of three,i have two brothers.

i think we all got treated the same,but i did get away wih alot more than my brothers!think that was just because i was a girl!

my parents divorced when we were little,but we still got treated the same,even though my dad got custody of my brothers and my mum got me.

but i dont think any of us got left out when we were little.now is very different though,my brothers dont keep in touch with my mum and i dont keep in touch with my dad.

my dad said he didnt want anything to do with me when i got pg at 16 with ds.and he hasnt bothered much since then.he saw my kids for the first time 7 years ago when i had ds2 (who was my 4th baby) and i havent seen him since.i send him cards at xmas and his birthday (which is 2 days before mine) but i never get one back off him.

I'm the middle child of three. I have a vague recollection of feeling overlooked occasionally.

Of the three I was the rebel I suppose; we were all high achievers at school but I left at 16 whereas my siblings both went to uni, generally I was the one who got into trouble as a teen. Maybe as a way of getting more attention - not sure really.

I have 3 myself and know that ds2 has in someways lost out - not helped by the fact the dd, my youngest, has some special needs. I sometimes overcompensate with him now.

three of us, me the middle one. younger sister by 3 years was always the goody goody, i was the naughty attention seeking one, elder brother by 2 years is like me now and we have huge chips on our shoulders that our father didnt like us much compared to our "perfect" sister

i have older sister, younger brother; the division with us happened as 'golden boy' was favoured too obviously by parents (no housework, new clothes and lots of friends to stay over compared to handmedowns, no pals allowed and helping mum around the home). It backfired though, brother has been meaner and blunter with parents but surprise, still gets away with it!
its all to do with the dynamics of your family personality of parents, not the number I think but i do now say siblings are way overrated and for other reasons including financial and age etc will be sticking to just one thanks!