would you be annoyed...

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At ds nursery theres been a huge change of staff and to be honest they dont seem to be that nice. Anyway ds has just turned two and you know what 2 year olds are like. Ive just picked him up and asked if hes been ok and this nursery nurse said he had been taking toys off other children and she could tell in his eyes he knew what he was doing etc and i felt really annoyed by that as it werent what she said it was the way she said it. For one hes 2 years old, hes also any only child and thirdly his daddys away down the gulf and the nursery actually caters for service people so surely they should know children go through phases especially when their parents are away.The thing is thats why he goes to nursery to learn interaction skills but she sort of said it in a way that i should be dealing with it. But isnt this part of their learning. Obviously if i see it myself i intervene and tell him no but i know he just thinks its a game and he isnt being spiteful or anything.

I think I would be quite peed off if it was my ds. As you say, he is only 2 and this is all part of the learning process. What she saw in his eyes was probable mischief which is perfectly normal and healthy for a two year old lad, my ds is 3.5 yrs and he has a wicked glint in his eye most of the time!! I can remember a similar sort of incident when my ds was 18 or 19 months old. He was attending a nursery and one of the staff, a youngish girl who hadn't been working there very long, said to me one day that I should be aware that ds didn't sit and listen when asked. I nearly laughed in her face, exactly how many 18 month olds comply with sort of instruction to order! I was quite irritated by it though and mentioned to the lady in charge, who like me said it was ridiculous to say this and told me not to worry.
If you are concerned, I would mention to someone in charge of the nursery, it's not telling tales, but if staff are upsetting parents and not getting it right, then it needs to be brought to their attention. I'm not saying that children shouldn't be disciplined but this member of staff could probably do with brushing up her communication skills!