I need to vent please. My partner and I (of nearly 10 years) have not long had our first child. I had a very difficult birth and needed emergency surgery after and a full blood transfusion and over a week in hospital. My partner (who has adult kids from a previous relationship) made a lot of noise about how he'd support me and give me a little break each weekend so I could have a day to myself etc. since we got home he's hardly lifted a finger, he's done only a handful of feeds and will moan about everything. He says he's tired and I've yet to get that day to myself. Instead he's either slept (his day off and he'd slept all night, got up for an hour then fell asleep on the sofa and slept another 10 hours! Then moaned he was cold when he woke up) or cleaned the car, went out etc. I was told to have salt baths every day but as soon as my partner comes in he says he's tired, makes himself food and heads to bed. This morning he says to me I'm starting to look more like myself. I got a bit teary and he said he doesn't know how to handle that and he shouldn't bother giving me a compliment and next time we're out he'll do the same to me as me getting teary makes him look bad! I've tried saying to him about keeping promises and he just says he's so tired that I don't appreciate how hard he works (it's me that pays the majority of the bills btw). He's also moaned about various family members (both sides) then wonders why they now won't help with child care when I go back to work. He's now agreed (without asking me) to work away for 3-4 months. I'm so angry as a few years ago when I needed to be away with work for a few days he said he wasn't happy me going and didn't shut up about it. Eventually the trip was cancelled. But can he not see that me being teary (still in a lot of pain from the surgery) is normal?