Toddler worse behaved when dh is around???!!

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I thought I was imagining it but I'm really not I have a 15month old ds and if I'm home alone with him he is an angel, he potters around just playing and doing what ever, I can sit on the sofa, do the washing, change the bed anything and he doesn't murmur just looks to make sure I'm around then he's fine... When my dh comes in from work around 5 he changes, he wines and becomes clingy I can't put him down it drives me mad, my dh sometimes takes him into another room to play with him and he's fine I hear him laughing and playing but as soon as he sees me he starts moaning again. It's like all the time I'm not in sight he's ok but as soon as I am he doesn't want my dh he just wants me.
In the evenings if I move from the floor to the sofa he cries, stops what he's doing and sits in my lap.

Just wondering if anybody has ever had anything like this it drives me insane because I say to my dh how good he is and all he gets to see is the grizzly side of him.

About the age of one they become very aware they are a separate being from their main carer. It's quite scary for them! I think it's very normal for him to want to be with you

Add to the mix that it's late and he's probably a bit exhausted

It's almost like he doesn't like it he's not getting my full attention because obviously I'm talking to ds cooking the tea etc. my ds returned from a week away last night... All last week couldn't of asked for a better baby, last night he was very excited followed my dh everywhere (it have me a rest ha) then today he has woke up a different child, he has moaned grizzled and cried all day, iv had to try so hard to occupy him to keep him happy x

My DD2 is a fair bit older (32 mo) but she is exactly like this, all week she is an angel playing quietly, no moaning or being clingy, then come the weekend and DH is around she is always trying to get me to pick her up or crying if I do something without her.

I think she panics that I am going out/away as a few time (literally a few times I have gone out before she has gone to bed) and she has been very unhappy.

My DD1 was more or less the same, though maybe slightly better with DH, they are complete mummy's girls, I think DD1 has grown out of it but would always rather be with me even now at age 6.

My DH is a decent parent, but I don't think he really 'gets' little kids or has the patience for them and they pick up on that. Sad really but what can you do, I can't tell him how to parent all the time.

Also I do 90% of the caring so they just see me as the provider of food, snacks, cuddles etc.

Sorry no real help, but you are not alone!