Is it weird to invite preschool teacher to child's party?

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My 4yo has asked if her teacher can come to her birthday party, which will be taking place in a few weeks at our home with a small group of children and adults.

Her teacher is lovely and we'd be happy to have her, but I've no idea what the protocol is and whether an invitation would seem strange.

Thanks for any advice.

I think it would be unfair on the teacher and you need to explain to your son that it is her day off and she has a life outside preschool. It's a sweet request from him but it would put her in the awkward position of having to say no if she doesn't want to go.

It would be weird. I always told my kids that teachers are busy with their own families at weekends.

I would think it was strange and would tell him she has other things to do at the weekend

Yes very weird.
Most 4yos want to invite their nursery teacher (mine did want to) but you just have to say they are busy.
When dd was 5, she told her TA that I had booked a ticket to Tenerife for her to accompany us on our family holiday .

I agree. It would put the teacher in a very difficult position.

There is no way she would come because it's blurring the professional boundaries. Explain that she can't come. Don't put her in the embarrassing position of inviting her.

It would be strange, assuming you don't already know the teacher personally? My sister's a teacher and had this once, it's just awkward, professionally it's a no no and personally she just didn't want to go! It's similar now she teaches older kids and they want to "friend" her on fb. Just say the teacher's busy. Very cute though.

The teacher would politely decline, saying she has other arrangements.

God no - what are you thinking? The teacher has a life outside of school you know.

Don't do it, it would be very strange and put the teacher in an awkward spot.

I work in a pre-school and children are always inviting me to their parties or even just back to their houses. It's not something I would ever entertain doing, children are just told 'thank you, that's very kind of you' and the matter is dropped and forgotten.

If a parent asked I'd think it was kind but it wouldn't be appropriate for me to attend so I would just say I am unable to make it.

Maybe tell your DD that she could give her teacher some of her birthday cake?

I know one teacher who did this but to be honest she was a bit odd.

I wouldn't because I see the little buggers darlings quite enough during the week, thanks :)

I wouldn't feel bad about saying no though.

Sorry to break it to you, but birthday cake from the kids is routinely put in the bin here.

It's a nice gesture though.

Things must have changed since mine were that age then sparing. Cake was eaten.

Have you ever seen a kid blow out candles on a birthday cake?

I like my sweet treats without a thin layer of spittle

It's hard enough to stay healthy when you work in a school...

When the DC had parties I used to have a cake to blow the candles out and another one for cutting for party bags etc.
It was a small village school and the teachers were more than happy to eat birthday cake.

I never bought home made from the cake sale though.

I'm sure she likes your son. I'm also sure she has better things to do at the weekend. Seriously, don't put her in an awkward position.

Yes, very weird. Don't do it.

It's great that your DS likes her, but don't put her in the position of having to say thanks but no thanks. Just let him take her a piece of cake in.

And she could always put it on the bird table rather than bin it but nobody needs to know.

God no.
I've been put in similar position and I had to make my excuses.
I'm not a teacher , I work with children and I'm very fond of them but its my job, I don't want to see them on my day off.
She being lovely and friendly because she's a professional not because she want to be your friend.