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If you have a child/children of both genders...

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hunkermunker · 28/10/2006 12:06

..and you had to choose which gender of child you'd have (only one) - which would it be?

I don't think this is an easy question to answer - but I was surprised the other day when someone with two of each said she'd have only boys in a flash.

(Although maybe because she was talking to me, who only has boys...but I don't think so, because she proffered the information and seemed pretty sure of her reasons!)

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SoupDragon · 28/10/2006 12:10

Boy.

Although it may be just BabyDragons that are problematic rather than girls in general

Obviously speaking generally, I wouldn't actually send any of them back...

Pinotmum · 28/10/2006 12:11

Dd is 6 yo and ds is 4 yo. At this moment in time I would have boys. Girls of this age seem to have a lot of problems with friends and I can't keep up with who said what to who and why and when?! Ds has such a simple life Now ask me again in a few years and see if I change my mind. My mum had 2 girls and then a boy - she wished she had had just boys as well BTW I love my dd to bits

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juuule · 28/10/2006 12:52

I couldn't choose, either.

BATtymumma · 28/10/2006 12:55

i couldnt care.
seriously i don't think there was much of a difference in the day to day stuff.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 28/10/2006 12:59

Couldnt choose. Wouldnt choose. Its a personality thing.

I'd choose a baby who was like DD, and a toddler that is like my DS please

belgo · 28/10/2006 13:05

I have two dds and want another baby. Just can't imagine having a boy, even though we really want a boy. Just can't imagine what it would be like!

Zippetydoodahzippetyday · 28/10/2006 13:18

I too have DD (6) and DS (4). I have more run ins with DD as she is quite defiant and argues with me, whereas DS is very laid back.

Flamesparrow · 28/10/2006 13:19

I don't know... I had always wanted just girls... but DS is sooo much easier than DD, so right now I'd choose boys - but at only 8 months old, I am biased

BlackMagicMiaou · 28/10/2006 16:17

Hmmmm. I really don't think I could choose. Though I was really pleased to have girls, I was equally thrilled when ds was born, more so than I thought I would be. And I think the differences in the children are down to personality rather than gender - dd2 is more different to dd1 than ds is IYSWIM.

Does your friend who would choose only boys have difficult girls, hunker?

My mum had a friend who had a dd, then ds, and was desperate for her third to be a boy as her dd was so difficult. She had a boy and hey, presto - he was as difficult (if not more so!) than her dd!

TwigTwoolett · 28/10/2006 16:25

nope .. its far too Sophie's Choice for me to respond

I couldn't choose

I wouldn't choose

I don't know what is a product of gender nor what is a product of them ..

fistfullofnappies · 28/10/2006 16:28

couldnt choose.

PrettyCandles · 28/10/2006 16:35

I couldn't choose. I don't look at them and think - oh, this because he's a boy/she's a girl. They're too individual foir that. Perhaps if I had several of each (or was a teacher) I might have a different perspective.

TwigTwoolett · 28/10/2006 16:36

Its almost like saying

OK HM choose now .. you can have DS1 or DS2 .. which one?

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hunkermunker · 28/10/2006 16:42

Depends which one is asleep at the time, Twig

I do know what you're saying, and of course I couldn't choose between the boys - but this woman was so sure of herself and so definite. Her girls aren't particularly "difficult", her boys aren't particularly "easy" - so I was quite surprised.

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DumbledoresGirl · 28/10/2006 16:43

Boy.

I have 3 boys and one girl and that is exactly as I wanted it.

DumbledoresGirl · 28/10/2006 16:44

Oh damn, just read other replies. Yet again DG answers too frankly.

notagrannyyet · 28/10/2006 16:45

Well I wouldn't change what I've got.1DD and 5DS.
I would have loved another girl but it would have to be in addition to the boys, not instead of one off them.....I always thought twin girls would have been nice!
Just asked DH if he would have minded if we had had them the other way round ie. 5 girls & 1 boy .....He said no chance. We would have had a smaller family.

JanH · 28/10/2006 16:46

I have 2 of each, girls first, and when they were small I would have said girl. Now they are all grown-up-ish I honestly couldn't choose

Blandmum · 28/10/2006 16:48

With my two, my ds is easier but dd, while being infinity more demanding, is possibly more fun?

Ds is a volvo, solid, reliable. dd is a sports car, high expenditure but exciting.

I couldn't choose.

God help the poor man who bags my dd!

ds will make a terrific husband and father

SNORcacKLE · 28/10/2006 18:08

I don't think either of mine are in any way sterotypical of their genders; many of dd's traits are more typical of boys and vice versa, so it wouldn't really make sense to chose based on them. Like MB though ds is much easier and dd much less predictable - the contrast between them makes life very interesting.

drosophila · 28/10/2006 18:15

I don't see that many differences to be honest. When I had DD I was hoping for the type of girl who like to draw as DS was a handful physically. She is very like him in that respect in fact she is probably more physical climbing everything. DD is only 21 months though. I like the pretty clothes you can get for girls but that's the only difference.

Peridot30 · 28/10/2006 18:52

Wouldn't care what sex the baby was You take what you are given and be thankful. However saying that i have ds nearly5 and dd is 3 and IMO boys are so much more easier

tallulah · 29/10/2006 11:52

I only ever wanted girls and ended up with one girl followed by 3 boys. I can honestly say that DD was more difficult than all 3 of the boys put together. She also moved out as soon as she was able and still doesn't seem to have much empathy even at 20. Whereas one of the boys in particular is very aware of how he affects everyone else in the family and will ask if I'm OK because I look tired/ cold whatever. Probably just personality but for me it would have to be boys (but ask me again when they get married & I have 3 DILs )

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