What do you do when you physically can't hold him anymore!!

[LittleMissRayofHope]

DS is 6 months. Been weaning for a few weeks now and he is a little constipated.
He weighs 9kilo.
Dd is 2.6.
I am shattered. With the constipation DS didn't sleep well last night and then I was trying to nap when he napped all day and dd wouldn't allow that.

I physically can't carry him around anymore today. But he wants to be held. He must be feeling discomfort. Poor little guy. When I pick him up I feel my arms giving after a minute now so have put him in his bouncer. He is just crying and begging to be picked up.
Can't use the carrier right now. Nothing else pacifies him.
Only being held, by me, whilst I stand up. Even if I sit down he just cries

Pushchair /car seat no good?
Friends or family able to come over and help? If not sling for long enough for a lots of sympathy x

Why can't you use the carrier? Would a different carrier be more comfortable? Consider going to your local sling library to see if you can find something better up to the job.

Does he want to be upright? Jumperoo? Or dare I whisper it ... bumbo...?

It is a phase, but a wearing one, definitely.

I agree with recruiting people to come and hold him. And exploring other sling options. If it's a generic/bjorn type carrier they are not very comfortable at 9kg.

Associates his bumbo with feeding so just got super stressed out when I tried that and has had an extra meal today

Don't have a jumperoo - tiny flat. Tried putting him in dd's high chair and he got stressed out and dd acted as if the world had ended

He had a operation on his gentleman's area and as such he gets upset in the carrier right now.

He is just having to cry a bit. I know he will cheer up and be his normal cheerful happy to be put down and left self once he poo's. Been 48 hours so far so fingers crossed it's soon!! don't remember a time in my life when I've wanted a shitty nappy so much

When was the operation, could the constipation be related to anaesthetic? have you tried prunes?

Hmmm maybe you need advice on shifting the poo then! My DS is also six months and we recently started weaning, he went five days with no poo I massaged his tummy a lot and also tried getting as much water in him as possible. Two hours later we had poo. And oh my word so much poo!! And of course within five minutes of us sitting down for dinner in a restaurant. Obviously.

I'm surprised carriers are hurting him after his operation? If his hips are up he should be seated on his bottom rather than crotch? Poor little man, sounds like hard work!

Have you tried the baby massage thing with the upside down U? Sorry I can't be more help was years ago.

Maybe nappy free time would help too? Although then I guess he might grab at it which may not be the best idea.

Poor little man!

Would a stretchy sling work better so it's not resting on his sore bits? Not a baby bjorn one, a fabric long one if you know what I mean?

Haven't tried massage yet. I know the one you mean with the upside down U. Used to on dd. Shall attempt later when dd isn't charging around like a total nutter!

I never got on with slings. Struggled to find it comfortable. Back and neck issues myself.

For friends and family. My mum will come tomorrow for the day, but no one lives locally. All my local friends have children themselves of similar ages although DS must just be a little fatty as no one else's kids seem to weigh this much at 6months

Can you lie down in the bed with him and cuddle him? That gives him contact, but you don't have to support his weight.

He just cries if I sit or lay down with him.
He usually naps and sleeps quite well but last 2 days it's been 30 min naps which have taken me 30 mins to get him to sleep!!

He only seems happy if I'm holding him and standing up but my arms have just given up now.

His dad is here now and has taken him - and he's only sitting down and DS is completely happy about it....

Isn't that always the way?!

What the hell is it with these buggering DC who won't be held sitting down or at the very least leaning against something?! DS2 is now a teen, but would never let me sit and hold him or lean on something to take a big of the weight. It was carrying standing upright - or he was kicking and screaming.

I'm so sorry I have no better advice OP. Just sympathy and for you.

Ella's Kitchen pouches of prunes are good for constipation. On their own or mixed with yogurt, porridge, etc usually get the desired results. Boots and some of the supermarkets stop them but they can sometimes be hard to get hold of and sell out so stockpile them!