8 month old still cries in the night!!

[Catpassenger7]

It's been 8 Months since my son was born and I'm still having to get up from 3x up to 7x in the night and if I ignore him he screams until he's blue in the face or he will cry for ages and to top it off I have my 3 year old waking up because of his constant screaming! the only way to calm him down is gently tap his bum until he sleeps!! I'm exhausted now , it's got to the point I just want to cry I haven't had a decent nights sleep in months!!! Need advice , why is he like this at night , any suggestions what I should do??
Thanks
An exhausted mum!!

my son is nearly 3 and still gets up twice a night, he is a baby, I wish I could give you some decent advice but babies will wake up

Is he BF or FF and do you ever feed him when he wakes at night?

If he goes back to sleep by tapping, you're doing pretty well. Ds was still feeding every two hours 24/7 until 10 months.

I don't really know what else to say - some babies do wake and cry a lot at night. They just do.

As long as you aren't feeding him, and are doing the usual checks (hot/ cold/ wet/ windy/ odd noises/ clanking/ weird lights through the curtains then it sounds as though he's just fine.

Do you have a partner? Share the load and make them do 50% of the waking.

Mine did this until he was 2.6. He now sleeps 7pm - 7am but it's taken three long years. Hang on in there.

Sorry op, it's absolutely bloody exhausting but I'm going to chime in with another "normal" here. Ds woke every 2 hours ish from 6 months to 11.5 months when we did some sleep training. 8 months is still young and I only know of one baby who was routinely sleeping through at this point. Do you feed him when he wakes? We only night weaned ds at 11 months despite all the book saying babies don't need feeding in the night after 6 months.

I'll let you know the answer as soon as I have it, maybe my dc2 will tell me as he's 2.5 and still wakes a lot! Sorry op, all I can say is dc1 outgrew it at about 2.9 and eventually you will have a child that sleeps through the night

I feel your pain OP. It's normal, but SO hard; 8-9 months was a crap age for sleep in my experience. Is he going through some separation anxiety? If so think about ways of making his cot, and the room it's in, a happy place for him. Do some daytime activities in there so it's not just somewhere you go to put him down and leave him alone. Try introducing a comforter in the cot. If he has dummies, make those a cot-only thing so that he associates the comfort of a dummy with lying down in bed - if he's able to put them in his own mouth, let him find hem in the cot so it's a first step towards self soothing. Good luck