Advice on how to divulge a kids achievement without getting resent,net from his peers

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My little one just achieved a high badge in swimming...feel bad for telling him not to tell all his peers...the competitive ones as they will get jealous

Did I do wrong?

His peers are so competitive i hate it....but obviously want him to feel proud

How do I advise him to tell his peers without boasting ?

Telling isn't the same as boasting or showing off. Why on earth would he not be able to tell his friends about an achievement? Sorry...don't get it at all.

How old is he?

What would they do? Apart from try to win the badge themselves.

He doesn't need to tell them unless they ask. If there is a time in school where they can share outside achievements he can take it in.

Tell him to shout his achievements from the rooftops if others have an issue with or are jealous then that's their problem not yours or your child's.

Children should be able to be proud of their achievements. As long they don't go round belittling those less able than they are in that field, I cannot see a problem. Children have to learn that other people may be better than they are at certain things.

Why would he need to tell them about his badge - and would they even know what it meant?

Another thought : My kids were given the chance to report achievements like that at school and there'd be a shout out in assembly.

~Personally I'd stick to telling the adults in his life who can either feign interest, or be genuinely enthusiastic depending on how they view swimming badges!

Never tell a child to hide/feel ashamed of what they have worked hard to do. Being satisfied and proud of a job well done brings great joy ... and genuine friends celebrate that. It's important for happiness and security.

It's not the same as boasting.

Just saying - if the topic arises - "oh yeah, swimming club is going great, I got another badge" should be fine!

I don't get why he shouldn't make his own decision on who he tells.
To suggest he censors what he tells people isn't going to be healthy for him -he needs to trust his own instincts.

How little is your 'little one'?

Making the county team is worth mentioning, but almost anything else is likely to leave his peers none the wiser.

I think its odd you'd tell him not to metion it at all unless he has form for boasting.

Telling him the others will be jealous is really rather unpleasant of you.

I can't really advise until you tell us how old he is and what badge he got...

If they swim with him, surely they'll know. If they don't I can't imagine them caring one way or the other. If he's very little his parents might, but most parents grow out of that by 9/10yo