So I always thought I'd have 3 kids, I'm one of 3 but feel that my big sister (16 months older) always felt really left out (I'm a twin). When DD2 was born I thought never again and for a long time felt that they took so much of my emotional energy there was none of me left to give to another baby. But lately I've been starting to really think about it. DH would love another so don't want to talk to him and get his hopes up unless I've properly decided.
I think if I had a third now they would be so separate from DDs that being left out would be less of a problem DD1 in particular would be super helpful.
If having a hysterectomy was as easy as a vasectomy, I wouldn't have one as it would feel so final that would be sad, so if that means a decent part of me wants another I think I should probably get on with it? I'm 35.
In-laws are v helpful but in their 70s, atm we can send DDs for a sleepover with family but I can't think who would have 3 of them if we needed a break?!
I know what it's like to have babies close together but can't imagine things like getting the school run done with a baby in the house. How is it going back to nappies, sleepless nights and zero social life? Does the third (or any of them) feel left out?
DH is waiting to hear about a potential new job and I've sort of said to myself that if he gets it then let's go for another baby! It's a really arbitrary thing (we'd have a bit more money but he'd be really busy and probably away quite a bit etc), but I just can't make a decision on my own so think this is a way of deferring it!
Would really appreciate any thoughts xx