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Help!!!! DD lost comfort toy at nursery

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wishingchair · 26/10/2006 09:41

we searched high and low for it last night. Unless someone took it home or it's hidden somewhere really obscure, it looks like it's gone. Keep thinking some kid put it in the bin (unlikely but you never know) and maybe I should have gone through all the bin bags last night (the bins had been emptied so I would've had to go through all of them to find DD's room's bin!!!).

She is ok one minute then really sad the next but I think she thinks it's going to turn up. How do I deal with this? This toy has been like one of the family for the last 4 years. I'm an emotional mess!!!! Just hate the thought of her having to deal with the loss of something she loves so much.

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princessmel · 26/10/2006 09:42

What was it like? Could we help you find a replacement? Not the same I know but might help a bit.

alexsCURSEDMUMMY · 26/10/2006 09:43

what was it? any chance of replacing with a new one and saying he'd been to spa?

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wishingchair · 26/10/2006 09:50

Thanks you two. I actually have 2 replacements - identical little grey cats (we've had near misses with him nearly getting lost in the past hence the OTT purchase of spares!). BUT, they're not the same. They're not all worn and squashy in the same places and they don't smell the same. But we gave them a bath today and they're now frying in the tumble dryer so they can start to look more like her favourite one.

DD will be 4 at xmas. Maybe I should look at this as a way for her to do things and grow without her toy?? (clutching at straws to find a positive so I don't start weeping into my tea!)

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princessmel · 26/10/2006 09:56

My ds lost his fave bedtime doggy a few months back and some mumsnetters heped me find 2 replacements on ebay. I got them both then we found original!!!! He was at the inlaws, they hadn't felt it was important to tell us he was there
Your dd's may still turn up. Hve you been back to nursery yet to see if it was tidied away with the toys or another child took it home by mistake?
If you do find it I'd suggest always leaving it at home or if it goes to nursery put it somewhere safe. My son leaves his dog in the going home box under the teachers chair. He knows its there but its safer.

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wishingchair · 26/10/2006 10:10

Hi princessmel - we spent about half an hour looking for him last night and I thought I'd ask them to today to ask all parents to look for it in case someone took it home by mistake. Normally he does stay at home or if he goes, he stays in the going home box. But for some reason she had him all day yesterday. DH is away so she's a bit unsettled which is why I let her take him. If only I didn't do that ... but no point if-ing and but-ing though is there.

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wishingchair · 26/10/2006 10:10

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Iklboo · 26/10/2006 10:15

I remember when I was about 5 I lost one of my favourite teddies. I was inconsolable as my parents couldn't find a replacement. They bought me another teddy but it was totally different. The next week we went to my aunties and she had a surprise for me. It turns out I'd left "Andy" in the bread shop & the lady had him out on display so someone could claim him.
I've still got him today!

LIZS · 26/10/2006 10:37

oh no ! dd had a similar crisis 2 weeks ago - think I had a thread then ! ds did a poster and showed it to his class and both his and dd's teacher put it up. Also I emailled all the families who were around at the time it got lost (we were waiting for ds' year to come back from a trip). One child spotted it on a teacher's desk a few days later and we had a reunion !! Your dd's could so easily have been put in a toy box, another child's bag or set aside to be returned later. Hope it comes back soon.

princessmel · 26/10/2006 10:40

Posters are a very good idea. That way all the parents will def see it. And they will know how important it is to your dd.

LIZS · 26/10/2006 10:43

and don't feel embarrassed by doing so . I had so many mums of ds' year (8/9 year olds ! ) who asked if we'd found it and empathised !

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wishingchair · 26/10/2006 10:47

Think I'll do that. I've got a photo of him so I'll photocopy it with a "lost" message on it and ask them to hand them out tonight.

All the children know he belongs to DD. You're right, he could still turn up. Think I'm just worrying in case he has accidentally got binned. Nursery will think I've lost it. Left a msg on their machine last night saying if they think it could be in the bin, let me know and I'll come and rifle through the bags!!!

Managed to persuade her to think of one of the spares as the real one and she's sat watching cbeebies with him at the mo.

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princessmel · 26/10/2006 10:49

My ds took to his replacements very quickly. Now he has the original back he prefers him but takes the others to bed too.

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wishingchair · 26/10/2006 10:54

That's good to know - thanks guys. Think children are quite practical when it comes to stuff like this. Hope so anyway!

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PinkTulips · 26/10/2006 11:11

i lost my teddy in another country when i was 3 and was devastated. luckily we'd been staying in a relatives flat and he turned up a few weeks later and was posted back to me, still have him in my bed now

you could try and find a book about a cat going on an adverture and pretend her cat is doing the same? it might cheer her up to think of cat having a lovely holiday as opposed to being 'lost'

hope it turns out someone brought him home by accident and she gets him back soon

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