Great Tip For Calming Down Kids

[NotQuiteCockney]

This is from popsycal:

Tell the child to "smell the cake, blow out the candles", so they breathe deeply and calm down.

Ace tip!

sounds like a good tip, will try it on 3 year old tomorrow, hopefully he is not too young!

Mine would say fine where is the cake, seriously I wish I had thought of that when DS was still going into rages, we did deep breathing to calm him down.

I thought that was brilliant, too. As a way to get them to breathe in through nose, out through mouth. Excellent.

But how do you get your children to hear you when they are in a rage? My dd is so angry she is shouting so loud that she can't seem to hear me.

I have that problem too rubles, and when I try to approach ds he flails his arms around too so it is really ard to calm him down. Sometimes whispering works as curiosity gets the better of him, but only if he can see me, he's usually too busy crying to see anything!

hard even

Personaly I go for the 'Move another muscle, yell one more time and the next time you get pocket money from me, you will be in your 40s' line!

But then my kids are probably older!

I had to hold him tightly and talk calmly and quietly in is ear until it sank in. We also had a key word that if we were getting out of hand either of us could say it and we both had to stop and just have a cuddle. His word was teddy bear, instead of trying to explain how he felt he could just say this and I had to stop losing the rag and call a halt.

After discussing this we ended up only using it once or twice, I think even the discussion helped, he was about 7/8 then.

Did all the mad mummy things like shouting back and things got quite vicious between us (verbaly). He is 10 now and hasn't had a major rage for over a year now, He does growl a bit occasionaly but not the uncontrolable scary rages with wooden chairs bouncing accross the room.