bedtime with a toddler and a newborn and DP at work, How does it work?

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DS is nearly 2 and I would love to have another, DP isnt so keen because of money and space, but we havent discussed it lately so we need to do that.
The concerns I have though are that DP works late so I'm on my own for DS' bedtime, how would I manage this with a DC2. He takes a long time to wind down and go to sleep and has to have me or DP with him while he goes to sleep.
we also only have 2 bedrooms so although I would be happy to have DC2 in our room for longer than the first 6 months how does room sharing go for siblings especially if theres a boy and a girl. What age can you realistically move DC2 in with DC1.
thanks

My DC1 was just 3 when DC2 was born. I did bedtime stories etc with baby clamped to my boob, then dealt with baby once 3yo had dropped off.

We have one of each. They have shared a room since DC2 was 1yo (now 3 and 6) - it's fine :)

If you want another, just go for it! Three years is a lovely age gap

I reckon you could ease your son off you staying till he's asleep by 3. Otherwise, it may be difficult but you just go with the flow. Sometimes the nb is asleep at bedtime in their cot or a sling and you just do the normal older child's bedtime. Sometimes they will be awake and then you just muddle along. Nb on floor, in bouncer, in arms etc. The older child will adapt. I think sharing a room would be fine for a boy and girl, at least until the elder is 8ish.

And 9 months is a long time. Dd was still bf to sleep when I got pregnant with ds. She took an age to settle and needed me there until she was completely asleep and was waking several times a night. By the time ds was born she was weaned, self settling to sleep in about 10 mins and sleeping through.
Yy to the baby attached to boob for most of bedtime routine and deal with baby once toddler asleep.
Don't know about bedrooms sorry. Ds still in with us.

Thanks for your replies. DS has only recently stopped breastfeeding, he wasn't feeding to sleep at bedtime anymore but it did still help make him sleepy so hopefully he will get better at going to sleep. I think I'm thinking that a new baby would be like DS was as a newborn, crying for an hour each evening despite being in the sling and refusing to nurse to help comfort him. But I know thats not the way it would be and if it was I would work something out.
Do you think your boy and girl will continue to share as they get older Giantgasping?

as far as im aware a boy and girl can share until the oldest is ten. (this is when I would stop paying bedroom tax if I wasnt having my 3rd)

A boy and girl can share for as long as required. 10 is not a legal rule or anything. Of course they are likely to prefer privacy as teens.

I shared with my brother until I was 9 and he was 13. Not ideal but we didn't think about it really. It was fine apart from the fact he used to tell me really creepy ghost stories and scare the hell out of me. We also had a line drawn round the room and god help him if his man united posters encroached on my pony ones.

Sorry op. completely off topic. I have very needy DC sleep wise and do bedtime every night on my own. 4 year age gap but stories happened whilst bf baby, then went back and firth between them. Sometimes the baby had to cry a bit whilst I stroked a head for 2 mins. It worked fine.