Unplanned and pregnant. Does anyone have any experiences to share regarding age gaps?

[Ziggystar1982]

Hi all,

This is my first post here. I basically feel so sad, not for me but for my little girl. I've just found out I'm pregnant so there will be a 2.8 year age gap between them. I feel like I've betrayed my daughter, she's my baby and I don't know how she will cope being pushed off her pedestal. Can't stop crying, it breaks my heart looking at her. Is this normal? Does anyone have any experience with this age gap? I have always planned around 3.5/4 years if I was to have another child for the reason of my daughter having me to herself and gaining a lot of confidence. I know there are many that would be so happy that they are pregnant so i'm really sorry if this post offends them. Just need some advice really, I've not even told my husband yet as I know he won't get that im worried about her.

I'm currently pregnant withwith (surprise) DC3.

DC1 was almost six before DC2 was born. Now DC3 is due right around DC2's second birthday.

I do feel like that sometimes, that my son had so long to be the baby and DD doesn't have that. But there are pros and cons to any age gap.

The six years is great in some ways but it was a huge adjustment for my oldest. I think DD, being so little, will have an easier time.

2 years is actually a pretty common age gap, I think. You'll be fine. 2.8 especially isn't that small of a gap at all. You're probably having a lot of feelings due to the surprise of the pregnancy. I know I was/am! :)

It will be lovely. :)

And it depends on the child too. DS is sensitive, DD is...ahem..."a live wire". She will be confident and fierce no matter how many I have.

2.8 is a pretty good gap. She probably will grow up without remembering a time without her sibling, and she'll be old enough to have "jobs" like helping with nappy changes, weaning etc.

Thankyou! My mum just popped over and she told me to catch a grip, it'll all be fine, maybe my daughter will stop being a wee diva when she isn't the sole focus of everyone's attention ;) Sometimes you just need to hear people say it! So thanks again, now to adjust to this idea !!! phew