changing sons school... need serious advice

[edgarsuit]

Ds is at pre school.. he has always loved school been there since he was two and since Sept he seems to really hate it and his behaviour has changed a lot I'm wondering if its because now he's 4 he is surrounded by 2 yr old and has a 18month sis at home

However the school that has spaces is highly recommended but when I visited I wasn't impressed, run by old ladies she didn't give me much info at all and seemed like questions were a bit of a nusence.

I feel I need to make a change for him but I feel really confused. He is adiment he wants to leave. I have until Fri to decide

It's hard trying to decide what to do for the best, however I would say your instinct as a mother is usually right. If you didn't like the feel of the new place would your son be happy there? And if would you feel ok about leaving him there. Could you speak to staff at his current pre school and see if they have noticed any changes? Will they have half term coming up- maybe just having a week off will help.

Is it schools nursery or private preschools you are talking about?

As he is only there for another four months and then starting school, I wouldn't bother. It's pretty normal for the older kids in a nursery to be ready for school, need more stimulation, and generally get a bit antsy for the last few months. It's a good sign that he is ready for a more educational environment in September.

And you can just reassure him that he will indeed leave - to start big school in September.
A 4 yo doesn't know what he wants. There aren't great arbiters of educational decisions at that age

Yy to going with your instinct. It's hard to put your finger on why you don't like somewhere, but you have to work with these people and so need to be on the same wavelength.

Your ds is 4 so he doesn't get to choose where he goes to school or when he changes! Of course you should listen to him if he is not happy, but from September he will be in a new class with big boys and girls - not a two year old in sight! He will have his change then.

Has he had a new teacher this year too, or is he in the same room as always? It seems strange that he has gone from loving to hating school over one summer - what does his teacher say about him?

It seems very common for boys especially to get bored of Playschool once they turn 4, my 3rd child is 4 and at Playschool and is now bored of it, the boys on my older 2 children's years also acted the same at this age.
There really wouldn't be any point in moving him at this stage. He'll be starting school soon enough

The new nursery will indeed be a bit ambivalent. He will be there for a few months and leave just as he is settled. They aren't looking at a new toddler who will stay for three years. Just a couple of months. Hardly worth their while - they are better off filing the space with a new 3yo with two years to run.