Should my suck y 6 wk old ds have a dummy?

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Help! I have a 6wk old boy who is very 'sucky'. I really don't want to force a dummy on him but I feel like a walking, talking dummy at the moment! He is exclusively breast fed and is gaining weight really well so I have no worries about it sabotaging my bf-ing. My daughter 8.5yrs had a dummy and she took to it really well at about the same age (she had nasty colic) but ds seems to resist it and I have just managed to persuade him to take it now and he has gone to sleep like - well... like a baby! Any help would be gratefully received!!!

i hate em and managed without

id trya nd manage wihtout if you can but if oyu find yourself going mad ,,,,hten hey who cares!

Go for it

Dd1 had dummy until three months of age,
dd2 until a year old.
No probs weaning them off the dummies, no probs breastfeeding.

persoanlly, if I'd managed until 6weeks without one then I'd carry on without.

I loved it when ds3 refused the dummy because I'm a dummy snob and hate them.

if he can resist...then leave it...he might find his thumb when older anyway.....if you have to persuade him to take it..he's not that sucky!!

If it might help, try it .I got one for my ds when he was a baby and took it away at 8 months old so it does not have to become a permanent feature .

Thanks all, I greatly appreciate your input. I must say I am still in two minds but he has just gone to sleep again without it and without any fuss! His 'sucky' period seems to be later in the afternoon and early hours of morning. Maybe that is why I am looking for a quick fix. I will try and carry on without one ladytophathatt since we have got this far without. Cheers!

I was and still am a bit of a 'dummy snob' but funnily enough when dd1 was 'sucky' and needed the comfort I gave her a dummy and she used it til she was 2 - only for sleeps I have to say, then we stopped them for day naps and went cold turkey at 2 when 'Santa took it for the other babies'. Her teeth were fine, her speech was very good and the only problem was in my own head, beating myself up for giving her something I thought was 'bad', which was silly as she was and is absolutely fine. Dd2 never took to a dummy so we didn't pursue it and part of me, perversely, is glad. But if she had have taken to it we'd have used it. Another example of guilt over sense and instinct. If he's happy with it, go for it. You're far too consciencious to let it become a problem I would imagine!

let him have a dummy. I thought i was being clever keeping ds off one and he took to his fingers which after a year are dry, chapped, have sores on them etc because he sucks them so much. I am now in the process of weaning him onto a dummy.

At least you can remove a dummy in the future, you cant cut their fingers off

agree with LTH

fingers cuter than dummy

Harder to get rid of though, cod

lol
yes ds1 still ahs an emaciated blue rabbit

I would say go with the dummy - my ds1 is 14 still sucks his thumb (ssshhhhhhh), and my sis-in-law is a 38yr old GP and still sucks hers!!! I tried desperately to get my ds2 to take a dummy but he wouldn't and breast-fed every 2hrs until 9mnths,(and I was like a piece of string) so when my dd took the dummy it was great, hell to get rid of though (she was 5yrs )
BTW I am a SLT and pre-kids was a bit on my high horse over dummies - but I would say great if you can get away without it but they are fab!

My ds just got rid of his last week and it wasn't an issue. He didn't nap all day, but by the time the night came he was too exhausted to care. The next day it was business as usual.

He's 14 months by the way, and it wasn't a choice. His teething made him chew through two and I just didn't want to buy more.

Hi all, thanks so much for messages. Mixed opinions or what!!!! To conclude... ds refuses to take a dummy anyway so it is a decision that has been taken out of my hands - phew! I guess he will become less sucky as he develops anyway. thanxs again for input.xx