For just under a year and a half a contact order has been in place giving the father of my son contact once a week for 3-4 hours and every other saturday for around 6 hours. And contact can progress as arranged by us and can become overnight once he secures his own accomodation with an appropriate room for my son. These contacts were set out for specific times however my job position has changed so hours differ each week and my son has started morning nursery so time for contact needs to revolve around this. I always make sure he gets the right amount of time just the day and time differs. The father has resently not turned up for 4 weeks. He then text me to ask when contact is after these 4 weeks and told me its my fault he hasnt had contact as i should of phoned him and text him until i got a reply and now i have recieved a letter telling me the father has requested me to go to mediation for him to have fri- sun every other week including over night and to discuss handover times. He has never asked for increased hours each week, he doesn't even take the additional holiday contact i try to offer! I think contact would need to be progressed gradually, is this unfair? Will mediation be able to change over night stays when court order says no? And is there any point to mediation when handover times cant change unless i give up work? Which im sure no judge will force me to do !