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Uni is killing me, I love it but its killing me

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tiredemma · 17/10/2006 19:36

Im so tired, emotional. I love my course but its just so intense.

I feel im neglecting dp and my boys..

only been there 3 weeks

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gigglewiggle · 17/10/2006 19:39

What are you studying? as long as you love it it will be worth it in the end

gigglewiggle · 17/10/2006 19:39

What are you studying? as long as you love it it will be worth it in the end

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tiredemma · 17/10/2006 19:40

nursing, i know that i cant/wont give it up, but im soo tired and ratty with everyone.

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nutcracker · 17/10/2006 19:43

Awww emma really sorry to hear this. You are doing the degree course aren't you ??

I know it is easy for me to say, but you have to keep plodding on. My friend who is doing the midwifery degree feels exactly like you, but she said she just has to keep reminding herself why she is doing it and what she will gain.

hatwoman · 17/10/2006 19:47

have you just started tiredemma? I did a masters last year and at the beginning of term dh and I nearly divorced and I nearly decided that I couldn't do it f-t - got as far as talking to my tutor about doing it pt. The first few weeks were brilliant, yes, but utterly hideously stressful. Stick with it and I'm sure you'll get through - you'll learn how to work more efficiently, learn your way around the library. Make yourself a strict timetable for all your independent study time - apportion your time according to what portion of your marks a subject is; and try your timetable out - be prepared for it to be not quite right and tweak it until it is. You really need to be disciplined - which sometimes means saying to yourself taht you've spent x time on something and although it might not be as good as you;d like, but you need to move to the next thing, otherwise you'll get behind. do students at your uni organise themselves into study groups? this was my life saver - I got together with about 8 other students and we shared out work between us - all our work was independent reading, so it leant itself to this - we would each choose a week/topic and do all the reading for our own chosen week, prepare notes, do some essay plans - and then pool them all. ie you get 8 sets of notes in exchange for one. It was a complete life saver.

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tiredemma · 17/10/2006 19:47

hi nuts.

thanks for that, i know its worth it but i just feel like im here there and everywhere. feel guilty for doing all this and expecting my family to just "put up" with it because its what i want to do.

plus im shattered, learning something new every day is bloody tough!!

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nutcracker · 17/10/2006 19:50

You are doing this for your kids and you and your dp. You would make such a fantastic nurse, don't give up on that.

Oh and remember to find time to relax at least once a week, take an afternoon or even a couple of hours to just chill out.

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tiredemma · 17/10/2006 19:55

thanks you hatwoman, thers some fab advice there, really thanks

thnak you nutty, you have made me blart ( and i NEVER cry- hard faced old cow!!)
thank you very much, it means a lot that you said that. x

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nutcracker · 17/10/2006 19:58

Awww bless you, why wouldn't I say it, it's true after all.

Just be good to yourself every now and then and you'll be fine, any time you want to rant and rave about anything, then you know where I am.

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tiredemma · 17/10/2006 19:59

thank you so much.

im off to have a nice bubble bath now.

thnaks again

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nutcracker · 17/10/2006 20:00

LOL, go on , have a nice relaxing soak

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tiredemma · 18/10/2006 20:35

right, have sorted myself out and made a timetable for uni work - it doesnt really help that im still working part time on top of uni but beggars cant be choosers can they???

If i stick to my 'timetable' I should have time for everyone- including myself.
Why cant we have 36 hours in a day instead of 24, that would sort my problems right out.

But other than that its just a case of gritting my teeth and cracking on with it. Speculate to accumulate, it will be all worth it in the end. I hope.

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hatwoman · 19/10/2006 11:40

good for you. at this stage I would treat your timetable as a work in progress - I think it took me at least 3 weeks until I sorted out a routine that worked well for me - but just get used to teh principle that your time is marked out - I know exactly what it feels like and when you're juggling you can't afford to let an hour drift by. But remember to reward yourself and allow time to relax etc - it's just that having a timetable keeps it under control and makes sure that the hour you said you would spend having lunch with a friend doesn't turn into 2.

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tiredemma · 19/10/2006 11:42

are you finding it tough too fio?

thanks hatwoman- you talk tons of sense!

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tiredemma · 19/10/2006 11:47

what are you studying fio? I think you may have already told me before, apoligies if so.

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