My ds (2.10) has changed personality [sad]

[Pruni]

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Hi Pruni,

Have you found the move quite difficult, yourself? Could he be picking up on your own sense of concern and worry for him?

Pruni, I'm sure once he gets used to things and feels a little more secure, then your DS will adapt and morph back into his happy self.
Sorry, not much use, but you sound so worried and you shouldn't blame yourself/worry too much. This is just a temporary blip I'm sure and once you both find new groups/activities in which you feel more comfortable then I'm sure your DS will settle down.

Dd is 2.9. She too is doing odd things. I won't even try to describe the hell that was the Tesco shop this morning. I'm pretty sure ds went through a phase too. I keep telling myself that because I am slightly concerned about her development (speech delay, some other stuff).

If you are unhappy, he probably is picking that up, but if you fret about how it is affecting him it will just get worse won't it?

Keep smiling. I'm sure it gets better soon!

Yeah, sorry I only asked about you because I was wondering if he could have picked up on a vibe from you - not because you are to blame, but because children can be quite sensitive to their parents concerns and insecurities. If I were you, I would persevere a few more times and concentrate on meeting people yourself - as you relax and meet new people (it takes time, I know I have moved around my whole life!) you may find that your child feels more safe and secure and settles in?

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Pruni, my DS started behaving really really unlike himself just before his 3rd birthday, no one could believe he was the same child to what he had been like previously, friends were completely shocked. He was a nightmare. He started hitting etc. He's now back to his usual self to everyone's relief.

It does take time to settle in a new place, I did it a few times when my DD was younger. I found generally though that actually DD adapted faster than I did to moving mostly. One thing DD loved after moving was a little photo album full of pictures of where we used to live and her friend's etc, might be a nice thing for the two of you spending an afternoon doing. Hang in there, this will pass. Meanwhile make sure you get to know people, difficult toddler phases are much easier when you can offload to someone over a cuppa I find !

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Well actually he is Pruni

I guess that your move may have coincided with a difficult toddler phase of independance, but you know him best and so you would probably know if this is more than just that - other than your move has anything else changed for him that could be making him more stressed - a change in his routine for instance?

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Yes off to church with you ! He probably is feeling stressed by the move, I reckon as much routine as you can manage at the moment and introduce new things really slowly. Does he have to go on the minibus ? I think that if you could take him there yourself to start with he'd probably feel happier. And is there anyone with a child of a similar age who will be there that you could get round to play, so he knows a familiar face there (if he doesn't already).

Pruni yes that is odd (the TV thing) but 2yos are odd. DD suddenly announced yesterday that she would only take a nap if I left the light on (and not dimmed) in addition to the night light. But at bedtime (obviously a lot darker) was quite happy with just the night light.

I think that all you can do is continue to ensure DS feels secure and loved, but persevere in socialising for both yourself and him. Not that you have to be with people every second of the day, but maybe 2/3 times a week.

Sorry bad sp "independence"
Go to church if you think that would help .

My DS is quite a bit younger than yours so not really experienced with your ds' age group - I have all of this ahead. We have hit the terrible tantruming twos, I find ignoring bad behaviour really hard, but quite effective.