Newborn, potty training and toddler bed - too much to take on?

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DS1 is 2.5yo, still in his cot, still in nappies, but wearing pants at nursery twice a week (and is mostly dry), and peeing in potty at home before bath etc and has done for a good couple months.

DS2 is 10 weeks and not happy in Moses or crib we bought him so i'd like to put him in the cot, which means getting DS1 into a toddler bed.

However I also feel we're holding DS1 back a bit by not potty training him as his nursery nurses think he's do really well and I think I'm being a bit lazy as I always have DS2 attached in a sling and can't see how constant trips to loo and changing wet trousers etc will work out with him strapped to me.

So, not sure which to tackle first - bed or potty training. Is it too much to do both? Both from a practical/sanity point of view but also would it be too much change for DS1 given he's adjusting to the arrival of his baby brother?

Should add that DP has been doing DS1s bedtime since DS2 arrives so he's volunteered to do the bed transition. As I'm on mat leave I imagine potty training will fall mostly to me.

Potty training should be an all or nothing thing really, so if he's using the potty and wearing pants some of the time, it would be best to just get on with it. If he's ready then it'll only take a couple of days so shouldn't be too many accidents/changes etc. If he isn't ready then the half time potty training is pointless. Pants or nappies. Never both (except at night time).

Is putting DS2 in the cot going to make any difference to his sleep? At 10 weeks I don't think he can be aware enough to not like the type of bed he's in. Cot, moses basket or crib is all the same when you're 10 weeks old. He probably just doesn't like being put down/being away from you. I would be wary of kicking DS out of his bed, just to give it to the baby. It depends on DS's view on it. Is he excited to be a big brother? Would he like a big boys bed? Or is he regressing a little, needing more reassurance and clinging to his comforts?

I would say don't do both at same time. Potty training is hard enough and doing it around the arrival of a sibling has never worked well from what I've seen. Sounds like he could be ready for it (although that's very early for a boy, DS was 3.5) but bear in mind you can't really potty train a child in a cot (they need to be able to get out of bed to wee).

I would wait to do both, getting a new sibling is a big enough change for now. But for what it's worth you can potty train whilst they're in a cot, I certainly did. My DD just wears a nappy at night, but wears pants in the daytime. Doesn't seem to cause any confusion, and most kids aren't dry at night until they're at least 4.