Losing my temper

[DetentionGrrrl]

My 16wk old has been really difficult today, which is unusual because he's normally very chilled out. I got so wound up earlier that i was shouting at him to shut up- i feel horrible about it, and a bit scared that i'm turning into my Dad to be honest (my Dad was pretty unapproachable and horrible to round when i was a kid because he was mean and bad tempered)Me and my son are having a lovely time now listening to music and laughing, but i can't stop thinking about earlier.

Your only human, and as you feel guilty I would guess you are not like your dad, see it as a learning curve, and remember how you feel now next time you feel stressed with your lo.

i have the exact same feeling after i do the same thing...

i guess the fact you are thinking about it so much, shows you care and that in itself means you are less likely to do 'too much' of it... IYSWIM

sorry, nothing positive or constructive to say, but at least youre not alone - i am the same boat.

I guess so. I just don't ever want him to feel about me how i felt about my Dad.

Can you try consciously laughing/tickling and try to defuse the situation for you and your child? This really worked for me and meant I could chivvy DS1 along with laughter and not shouting.

I hadn't thought of that...I'll give it a try

I think any parent who hasn't done or felt like this is a liar! We all do it at least once.
I know I have, usually over something like wriggling etc when nappy changing or when he throws entire meal I have prepared on the floor!
It can make you feel bad, especially when you look at their little face afterwards. I keep things under control by when I am nappy changing I let ds 'help' and I sing to him. I think robin3 knows what I mean. I try to make everything task a game now and it makes the day a lot easier!
If my day is that bad, I will leave ds in his room playing while I go and put the kettle on (he is 21m). Don't feel bad, you are only human!

hang in there huni,we all have days like that,do you have any family that could help,or even talk to?

No, here alone all day and i do all the night feeds aswell. Just need to take a breath when i get frustrated i think...scared myself earlier.

I think kids can laugh at themselves and sometimes I give DS1 a stern look and then start to giggle and he seems to get the fact that it's silly squabling over the small stuff.

Another Mumsnetter once suggested delivering instructions with a funny voice if you can see that a situation is about to escalate....think she used Darth Vader which is a little beyond me but any silly voice will do I'm sure.

Believe me I know it's hard sometimes

I found it helpful to go out for a walk with ds when I got worked up too.
Wish I had mumsnet when I first had ds, you have come to the right place to vent.

Auh....just seen your recent post and just re-read and realised you said 16wks and not 16 months! No wonder you're a little fraught.