I have two gorgeous children - dd2.9 who is mostly very easy but has ocassional tendencies to be "toddlery" and ds 9 months who is going through a massive separation anxiety period and only wants to be with me. I think I cope fine with them both - they are happy, well fed, well rested, bright and cheerful. They play lots of different games and do different activities throughout the day (I'm a sahm). I do however sometimes get annoyed with them for the usual reasons -taking ages to do something, refusing to eat, etc etc and my partner seems to latch onto these moments and thinks I'm not coping. I think he has unrealistic expectations and I can't seem to make him see that its normal to get frustrated when you're with a baby and toddler all day everyday. He says he is worried about me (tbh he sees us at our worst when he comes in from work and we are all tired and hungry). What is really hurtful is that I would love to consider having another DC but he thinks I wouldn't cope. I'm devastated that I may have ruined this for myself by not being good enough with dc1 and 2. Feeling a bit glum about it all.