I'm SOOOOOOO bored!!

[littleweed]

hi all
I have a beautiful 6 month old boy, who I love to bits. gvae up work to have him adn never intended to go back until he was older - say nusery age. but I'm sooo bored! every day seems like groundhog day - same thing over adn over. we go to coffee mornings every fortnight which are a real lifesaver - i see some of the people from that at differnt times,but teh days stil seem very long. what with feeding adn mushing up fruit and veg al the time, my days seem to be spent in teh kitchen. we do go out shopping etc, but hate spending money now I'm not earning it, adn indow shopping is a waste of time. not one for sitting in coffee shops, adn everything is alwasy timed to get back home for feeds etc. i just don't know what to do with myself(hey isn't that a song?) and som days liek today when DH has gone back to work I just spend my whole day clockwatching wondering how to fill teh time. there's only so many verses of singing wheels on the bus a girl can sing, adn only so much housework i have the inclincation to do - (actaully none at all) can anyone please reassure me that I'm not going mad?!!!

Lol Melsy, Coddy scared me too a bit with her boot camp mama advice, she is right though, daytime tv is a 1 way ticket to bluesville

It is a danger to us all!!! TV is banned forever !! Im actually begining to hate it , unless there is something really specific on.

...apart from the wright stuff which I class as 'semi-educational' and, frankly, I have a bit of a crush on matthew

I never watch it.
is there an Aussie still lurking here.. if ya keen there is some Deutsch happening on another thread (speaking in tongues)
double deutsch I know

Wagamama's in Brent X, finally it is complete!!

Yum Japanese... way to expensive in Switzerland - so I make my own Miso soup

yes sorry tv never on chez wallop( well not for me anyway )amd only at lunchtime for the dsses

Wagamamas in brent cross? ?!

yes Grommit I am in food heaven , want to come and have lunch with me there tommorow. Opening day ??

Were are you littleweed & anyone else want to chow down and slurp noodles!

Lipstickmum are you near???

Hi Melsy, sorry I wandered off... I grew up in Muswell HIll and Finchley, so I know Brent X very well. Hasn't it undergone a transformation? I still reckon losing the fountain was a mistake, but now as a mother I would probably freak out at the potential dangers of such a large body of water in a shopping centre!!!

What are your plans for today Littleweed?... how ya feeling?

I agree i loved the fountain , it gave it atmostphere!!! Would you like to meet there for lunch this week???

Littleweed how you doing , were are you living ??

Sorry melsy, I forgot to add that I don't live there anymore I'm in Oxfordshire now, otherwise I would have loved to meet up! What are you doing today?

Just been telling little weeed to do stuff anyway depsite exhaustion and you know what Im knackered and feel like slobbing on the sofa all day!!! I was going to brent X but have no one to go to lunch with so would have beena bit depressing!! Im also too tired to drive safely, been burning the candel both ends the last few days. Some of it is insomnia though!

Just to add my support Littleweed. I too am mother to a gorgeous six month baby (dd in my case) and I too am completely f.......bored most days. I thought I might enjoy being a SAHM but actually I don't think I'm cut out for it.

Much to my dh's consternation I really want to return to work. There is no doubt that it's easier and more stimulating than this. And this is even though I am constantly in wonderment at how beautiful/clever/loving my dd is.

I know you say you are not one for coffee shops but sometimes a forty five minute break in a coffee shop while dd sleeps (If I'm lucky after I've wheeled her about a bit) does the trick in making me feel better. And you don't have to get back for feeding - I always feed my dd while out and am an afficionado of the child friendly pubs and restaurants in my area.

And melsy, I was in brent x today. I used to hate it before dd but now it's literally the mecca I worship when I'm really really bored. I find motherhood so much less intense when I'm wheeling a pram around and my dd loves the stimulation. And by the time I get home it's usually six and time for her bed/bath routine. By seven thirty she's tucked up in bed and I'm tucked in to a glass of wine - I've never enjoyed it so much and I notice from most threads that I'm not alone....

raggle taggle we will have to meet thereb for noodles then!!

Your'e on. I always end up lugging my buggy down to costa coffee or starbucks. Just say the word and I'll be there. How old is/are yours?

Anyone else want to come? Lipstickmum? We can compete for whos the most bored

Your'e on. I always end up lugging my buggy down to costa coffee or starbucks. Just say the word and I'll be there. How old is/are yours?

I found 6-8 months the absolute worst time for boredom too. I banned myself from TV except when breastfeeding. I made sure we went somewhere every day - feed ducks, swimming, mother and baby group, baby session at cinema, baby session at library, music class. I got out for a walk each day if the weather was up to it (and sometimes when it wasn't), take a book and have a rest and a read half way if baby goes to sleep. Each week I would look at the diary and if I didn't have something on every day I would ring up friends I used to work with and meet them for lunch.

In fact why are you reading this message? You should be out! Get a loaf of bread and feed a duck (or a sparrow at a push).

Its date raggle taggle and anyone else. Will come back to you with a date, may be we can make it a MN meetup. Sorry Littleweed , wish you were nearer , we will have to find you sme mn near you

I know what you mean about the boredom. I've been to tons of baby and toddler things, met a load of people but not quite clicked with anyone. I end up feeling jealous of women I see in pairs with babies, like I used to with couples when I was single!

And also so many mothers go on and on about it being so wonderful and the best thing ever that you feel you should never really complain.

Being out of the house makes you feel much better though. I must brave the north circular to try the wagamamas at brent cross.

My ds is 3 and I think it is getting easier, especially now he is at pre-school 2 mornings a week. I found it terribly hard to adjust to being a SAHM.
I agree that it is important to get out of the house every day and that upto 6 months is probably the worst time. My Mums and babies / toddlers group has been really important to me.
I have often felt as if I'm not really cut out for being at home too - but I just could not bear to leave ds.
I sometimes wonder if there are only certain personalities who are really suited to this life - what do you do if you are not at all domesticated and don't want to spend all day finger painting and singing nursery rhymes?
There's a book I want to recommend - I'll look it up in a minute and post again. But one of the things it says is that it's up to you how you want your life at home to be - you don't have to conform to any outdated stereotypes of the perfect 1950's housewife.
I hate the way my brain has turned to mush.
I read recently that mums who go out to work are more likely to be stressed and SAHMs are more likely to suffer from depression.
One the plus side though - I have a really close relationship with ds; I don't feel that I have missed out on anything - I have seen every step of his development into the gorgegous, wonderful 3 year old that he is now; and I am the one who decides what values are important and exactly how he is brought up (maybe I'm just a control freak).