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I'm worried I'm not doing enough for my son at school

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scampadoodle · 12/10/2006 22:51

DS1 started reception this year & the teachers are always asking for parents to help out. I did offer my services but they said no because I would have DS2 (2yo) with me. They also need volunteers for the library trips which happen every other week. The day they go happens to coincide with the day i have the luxury of a childminder (I'm a SAHM) & I know it sounds selfish but I am really loath to give up that time in order to be with children. My two drain the absolute life blood out of me & I really look forward to my day off. DS1 asked me if I would go so I've promised to go along the next time, but not make a regular thing of it. I was chatting to one of the other mothers about it & I could tell she thought I wasn't pulling my weight (she has one child & works from home, for herself so has more time to do this stuff). I am a class rep though.
I suppose I just feel guilty for keeping that day to myself, but I resent paying a lot of money for childcare & then...surpervising my child!

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CristinaTheAstonishing · 12/10/2006 22:54

You are already a class rep so I don't think people would see you as not pulling your weight.

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scampadoodle · 12/10/2006 23:04

I think I just have to deal with the guilt I feel about taking that day for myself - it's not about the other mother really (although she annoyed me a bit).

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HallgerdaLongcloak · 13/10/2006 16:09

You have nothing to feel guilty about, scampadoodle. So don't.

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scampadoodle · 13/10/2006 16:17

Thanks everyone! I feel a bit less guilty now (will have to find something else to torture myself over...!)

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lemonaid · 13/10/2006 16:20

when ds2 has started nursery or school, and you offer to help in ds1's class, you'll be welcomed with open arms

And, potentially, that other mother will then have a DC2 and you can look at her in a sort of sniffy way that implies you don't think she's pulling her weight

wanderingstar · 13/10/2006 18:17

Ridiculous woman ! (Not you; the sniffy one !). My 4th has just started playgroup in the mornings; I've therefore only just begun to snatch a little free time for myself - I'm a sahm too - anyone normal would totally understand where you're coming from. It's nice to be involved, but not on the only day you've got.

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