Dd is 2.5 and I think that my brain is gradually being melted by the relentless sound of her whinging. I just can't bare it! Her immediate default in any situation is to screech or whinge - e.g. if she can't do something or wants attention - even if the person she wants attention from is already giving it to her. It's not even like she tries to get it then resorts to shouting/whinging when she doesn't get it. The thing is I just don't know how to stop it. I pull her up on it every time and tell her that she doesn't need to use that voice and that it's not going to get her what she wants. I always make her ask for what she wants nicely first. My OH however goes for the route of ignoring the whinging and carrying on as normal (which will often mean doing what she's whinging about, which drives me mad) or trying to find out what's wrong with her. I think this is just pandering to her, but in his defence, my route to dealing with it makes no difference whatsoever either. Nothing seems to work and it's been going on for so long now (well over a year) that I need to find some way of dealing with it. She is a lot more whingey than every other child we come across and it gets a bit boring being the one whose child is kicking off/moaning all the time when everyone else's is sitting there nicely. She is also always a lot worse when we are away from home, which makes holidays etc. typically miserable.
If anyone has any advice/strategies/help to offer I would be very grateful to hear it!