So ds is in reception and dc2 was born 3 weeks ago so I know he's had a lot of changes over the last couple of months, however I'm beginning to despair at his behaviour and I'm not sure how to handle it.
At home he is argumentative, contrary, downright rude and ignores instructions repeatedly. Any attempt to tell him off results in a screaming tantrum from him. He suddenly "can't do" things he has been able to do for ages - getting dressed or undressed and brushing his teeth. He won't even attempt to wipe his own bottom, any insistence that he does so results in a tantrum.
At school he has started being rude to other children, he has hit and kicked them. He has never been violent to anyone before. There are a couple of boys in his class who I have spoken to the school about because they call him names and have used their hands more than I would like while playing games, this upsets ds bu the school are aware and I can only tell him not to play with these boys and to tell the teacher if they are mean.
If a child says hello to him then he grunts or growls at them and says they aren't allowed to talk to or look at him. He won't speak to most adults, including his aunts and uncles or grandparents, they too get grunted at.
We have had a few bed wetting incidents and his eczema has flared up quite badly in recent weeks so he is obviously stressed out.
I just don't know how to help him. He won't or can't tell me what it is that is upsetting him, so I can only assume school and the new baby are the cause.