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GAH how the hell do you potty train a bloody stubborn little boy??

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 15:40

How did I get into this?
DS refused today to wear a nappy. He's 2.10. Fair enough, I am happy to go along with that.
Won't be taken to try a wee on the loo. Will go when he decides to go. Decides he's not going, wees on floor literally 60 secs later.
Will not go next time. Then sits on loo (hurrah!), farts, and rather unwillingly agrees to put on nappy. Poos 5 mins later and not will not have his nappy changed. Wants to go out but we can't go out with a shitty nappy.
I am so shit at this parenting malarkey. Somehow I have managed to breed a child who seems destined to do precisely what I don't want him to do at the messiest times. He almost never goes with the flow.

Thing is I couldn't give a toss whether he's in nappies or not. I just don't want him sitting in a shitty nappy or not learning how to use the loo if he's not going to wear one.
All you who have kids who will happily do as you ask, sit on the loo, go on the potty, clap excitedly, get dressed happily, etc, spare a thought.

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motherinferior · 09/10/2006 15:44

Oh honey.

Would it console you to know that my three year old regularly pees all over the floor? And drives both her parents (it's all her fault, honestly) to shout in the most horrible manner, before asking piteously 'do you yuv me, mummy?'

madmarchscare · 09/10/2006 15:47

Feeling it too. DS (2.10) wants to be a big boy but wont wear big boy pants (even if we go to the friggin Disney store and let him have Buzz light year ones)

ScummyMummy · 09/10/2006 15:53

One of most embarrassing moments ever ever ever was when stubborn son was 2 and came into room where i was attempting to charm parent of nice baby to whom I could, if charm had been successful, have acted as child minder and said in the most piteous tones:"Oh Mummy... Please don't shout at me but I have weed all over the kitchen floor."

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 15:54

Finally has agreed to have a) nappy removed, b) another put on, his choice, and c) pants over that. Says he wants the camouflage ones. (I know but they're pants and were £1 in primark)
"Where's the camel, mummy? And the flage? Where's the flage????"

It's the knowledge that half of parents can go "Well, he does what I decide he should do" and fuck me the kid will do it. You should see the fall-out if we don't go along with his plan. Whatever that should randomly be.

(Which we don't, hence a lot of fall-out.)

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FarMARSWarrick · 09/10/2006 15:54

No no no pruni my darling. Throw the nappies away (well put them in the cupboard for bedtime). Let him be without. DT2 was/is exactly like that. DT1 managed to potty train within the week, but the wee beast boy is only up to 90% now... months later! He refused to wear nappies and so I thought let's get on with it. He doesn't accept any form of bribery, praise, chocolate, sweets anything. But I persevere.

Time, patience, antiseptic wipes and Vanish are the way to go (not to mention a healthy dollop of Febreeze!)

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 15:56

You mean...there are other kids who wont be bribed or do as their parents ask them?????????
Chuffin hell...

Yes that is my ultimate plan ML but I suspect I will be driven to drink by it. It was just today when he said "I don' wan' nappy, I want big-boy pants" I thought, oh well, why not?

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messagedeleted · 09/10/2006 15:56

pruni you nob
itsc alled potty treaingin
do you expect tto get it in ONE day>

FarMARSWarrick · 09/10/2006 15:57

Then drink babe! lol

motherinferior · 09/10/2006 15:59

I have posted before about mincing around DD1 when she was three, desperately hoping she wouldn't kick off. I find myself appeasing her sister, who is now three, like Neville Chamberlain with Hitler, frankly. Oh, you might want to do that before I edge you out of the door, might you, mein Herr? But you will come nicely after that, will you, if I'm sufficiently obsequeious?

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 16:00

sod off cod
I don't
i am venting my frustration instead of shouting
i am being dead calm this end
though i want to sob and stomp really
i yearn for a child who wishes to please

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QueenEvil · 09/10/2006 16:04

Pruni, you have my utmost sympathy.

I too seem to have bred a stubborn, unco-operative, obstinate and oppositional child.

4 in January, ds3 opposes everything I ask. Has me in tears regularly atm (he doesn't see this). "Don't want to" is his current favourite phrase.

It's making me hate being at home tbh.

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 19:13

It's fecking hard, isn't it QE? I get a teary eye too and have to resist the urge to take him by the shoulders and weep "See?? See what this does to me??!"
I lol at all the tips one gets on MN, blimmin good ideas, very sensible, but many rely on having a child who will co-operate to some degree.
I have friends whose kids just do things, they seem to like doing as their parents ask them. We have positively praised, ignored the bad, reinforced, rewarded sometimes, but both of us realise that ds was only kidding us along because he had nothing better to do at the time. [hollow-eyed martyr look]

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FrannyandZooey · 09/10/2006 19:17

Pruni do you think Einstein or, say, Marx were easy to potty train?

I bet they were little shits aged 2

harpsichordcarrion · 09/10/2006 19:17

ah pruniprunipruni massive sympathies.
as my friend says, he will grow into that personality you know
It's a fkr isn't it? I had my bf trying to talk me into home edding last night, because "I know the reception teacher and dd1 will break her"
well she has pretty much broken me
I just gave up trying to train dd1, and just became a sort of potty facilitator. but not quite the same as she was OK about wearing nappies.but when it happened, it was literally overnight and dry at night too within a week.
don't despair.

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 19:25

lol FZ
HC i am not so much worried about the bodily functions thing, so much as the general trend.
I do not do saintly forbearance very well
He is lovely and not naughty, but blimey he is strong-willed and angry atm.

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 19:26

Is DD1 really a teacher-breaker??
She doesn't strike me as such.
You do saintly forbearance v well btw, at least in public.

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harpsichordcarrion · 09/10/2006 19:27

I know, it's hard isn't it? Greensleeves said to me the other day, I think all the people on the smacking threads think me and her have sweet little biddable children who do as they are told, so we don't need to smack

harpsichordcarrion · 09/10/2006 19:29

well my friend has known her since she was seven months and that's the honest assessment
she is astonishingly wilful and determined. oh and pretty insolent too

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 19:29

I found myself saying to the mother of a child ds had viciously and comprehensively bitten "Maybe if we did smack him...?? I don't know????!!"

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harpsichordcarrion · 09/10/2006 19:32

I have high hopes for dd2. I am hoping she might be sweet and compliant and possibly good at manipulating dd1??

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Pruhoohooohoooooni · 09/10/2006 19:34

Gawd it's wearing.
I don't recall this level of trouble when he was in f/t nursery.
[another hollow stare for good measure]

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Pruni · 13/10/2006 16:10

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