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Dropping the bottles. Epic tantrums. Worth it or give up?

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Thurlow · 01/12/2014 12:44

So we failed to drop bottles for milk when DD was 1, as she refused to drink milk from anything else, and at that age milk seemed more important. I tell you what, any future DC will be having that bottle stolen from them on their 1st birthday to save this hassle...

We've tried periodically to get her off the bottles, but no - drinks water from every other cup under the sun, but milk comes in a bottle. So now she's nearly 3 and still has milk in a bottle morning and night. I wasn't overly bothered as it's a comfort thing, she drinks it quickly and brushes her teeth afterwards, but decided last week that really, 3 is getting a bit old. I decided she can keep the bedtime bottle for now but in the morning we would change to a different cup.

Cue epic, sobbing tantrums every morning for the past week and a half. 5 minutes of mixing between ignoring, cajoling and bribery to get her to drink from any damn cup she likes - a mug, a beaker, a Tommy Tippee cup, a glass with a straw, you name it - before she eventually breaks and decides to drink it, reluctantly, while sobbing and having a cuddle. We've started a sticker chart for it and she clearly understands what's going on, she just doesn't want to do it.

One of the big problems is its the morning, and most days we only have a finite time to get ready to leave the house.

Anyway, I can't decide if I should plug away with this or just give up for another few months when she might understand bribery even better? Any suggestions? I'd prefer her to have some milk in the morning as she's not naturally the world's biggest drinker and she's got the better part of an hour before she has breakfast at the CM's most mornings.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 01/12/2014 15:01

Good Lord!Grin

Thurlow · 01/12/2014 15:13

Don't confuse me, mad, now I'm questioning again whether it's the right thing to do!

No milk in the mornings. She'll live. You're all right, she doesn't actually need that drink of milk in the morning any more. Bedtime bottle continuing, as we haven't touched that yet, but we'll take it away/swap it soon, and I'll do it with an actual plan, rather than winging it, which I suspect is my problem (mine, not hers) at the moment. I just woke up the other day and thought sod it, you're a little bit old for bottles. I clearly need some sort of plan before I can deal with anything!

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Thurlow · 01/12/2014 15:14

a big part of me that wanted to keep him a baby

No, we're not doing that at all, definitely not... Blush

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5madthings · 01/12/2014 15:26

Yep ditch morning milk, don't worry about bedtime bottle, let her have it and think about it in a few months, a trip away or just a change of routine and it will go, honestly not worth the stress!

Wait till they are 15 and doing gcses and choosing 6th forms, a these worries you have when they are little just pale into insignificance!

Thurlow · 01/12/2014 15:36

I like you, mad, you have loads of children so clearly know what you are doing and I will from henceforth adopt you as my parenting guru.

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5madthings · 01/12/2014 16:45

I wouldn't even think about potty training until the weather is warmer and she can go butt naked!

Mine trained at diff ages,ds1 at 18mths and ds4 not til 3yrs 6mths.the others all in between those ages. But when they dud it they did it in a few days because they were ready.

You may find she goes straight to the toilet rather than the potty but I really wouldn't worry about it.

Honestly once they get bigger no one cares when they potty trained or stopped bedtime bottles. They are little for such a short time, just enjoy it! :)

And lol at being a guru!

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 01/12/2014 16:48

Oh yeah, ds was well over three before we cracked potty training.

Thurlow · 01/12/2014 17:05

They always feel big issues at the time, don't they? Quite funny really. Everyone tries to be all laid back and noncompetitive about counting and talking, but bottles? potties? cot sides still on? Gasp! God forbid!

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5madthings · 01/12/2014 17:08

Oh yes I agree, everything seems massive at the time! But it's really not! Just nod and smile and ignore competitive parenting bollocks!

5madthings · 01/12/2014 17:09

Dd still sleeps in our bed and she is four on Friday, pretty sure she won't be doing that in her teens!

CynthiaDelgado · 01/12/2014 17:27

I'm with mad.

My ds4 still has a bottle aged 2.5
( and a dummy). 4 children has made me realise it's just not that important. They won't have a bottle at 18.

Ds1 had a dummy till almost 6. He's a mature 11 year old now and my mums friends daughter had her bottle till she was 7. She just started at Cambridge university.

It's just another thing for people to get judgy about. It's no different to extended breast feeding it's just in a bottle !

Thurlow · 02/12/2014 08:40

Well, this is going well Hmm

Didn't make her milk. Sods law it's a day were actually in. Went to the kitchen to make me a coffee, she asked for milk, I showed her a cup and said she could have some in that. She agreed, but when it was offered she started sobbing.

It's now 40 mins later

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Thurlow · 02/12/2014 08:42

Stupid phone!

She's still sobbing, I've been ignoring her and only talking when she's stopped crying, she's been at the table sobbing over Weetabix... Argh! No food, no drink, how annoying.

This is normal, right?

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 02/12/2014 08:57

Completely normal, just keep distracting and getting on with other things Smile

I would try clearing it all away unless she asks for it back.

Thurlow · 02/12/2014 10:31

Thank you! Will find some willpower from somewhere for the next few days Grin

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JennyWren · 02/12/2014 11:45

Is it the bottle she loves or the teat? When my DC were little I bought alternative spouts for their bottles - they fit in to the assembly in exactly the same way as the teats, but were a sippy spout instead of a teat. So they still had the familiar shape and feel of the bottle, just with a spout on top. It was an easy half way house and they barely seemed to notice the change, and it was easy then to swap the sippy bottle for a sippy cup. Having said that, they were both younger - about 1 year old - when we swapped.

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