Can I ask about your age gaps between your 1st and 2nd child?

[Writerwannabe83]

The title says it all really. What are your age gaps between your first two children and what were the pros and cons?

Thank you

25 months between DS1 and DS2

Pros - oldest doesn't remember a time when it was just him, we are hoping they will be into similar stuff as they get older, gets baby stage out of way fairly quickly. Oldest was (just) sleeping through when DS2 came along.

Cons - the jealousy....still there 19 months on! I'm still waiting for them to 'play' together. You have to watch oldest like a hawk when they're so little in case they accidentally hurt the baby / gouge it's eyes out. Bedtime when DH isn't here is a nightmare.

16 months
Same gender, they get on very well.
Cons: the second one finds it hard to make friends as his best friend is his brother. But my older one has his own friends.
so my older one plays foit all every lunchtime at school with his mates and my second one stays all alone during playtime (he doesnt like football amd on the few occasions he tried i am told he was rubbish). He doesnt gel with other children... DS1 is such a leader, an example, it is very hard for DS2 to feel good about his own life.
For a long time DS2 would not draw because his drawings were not half as good as DS1 (which is normal bc he is younger). I am pretty sure he doesnt like football because DS1 is good at it and DS2 knows he has no chances of equalling DS1 etc.etc...

18 months

Pros - Toddler wasn't jealous and soon forgot/didn't realise baby hadn't always been there. Still had a good afternoon nap so I could catch up with chores etc. Still in nappies etc and still had all steriliser bottles, so no hardship to do for another one.

Cons - exhausting. Going out anywhere. Dealing with a tantruming toddler and a baby with colic. No sleep. Can't sleep when baby sleeps. 18month old not old enough to do things by themselves.

Am currently taking just 2 yr old and baby to a gym class. Trying to keep 2 yr old safe (alive) whilst dealing with a rolling baby who can't sit up yet is a bloody nightmare frankly. Oh and we've just started potty training. AgghH!!

Honestly, you only realise how bloody easy one baby is when you have to cope with one and a small toddler at the same time!