Is it really a help to have dp/dh ared post birth?

[Mrsgrumble]

Dh is taking a good few weeks off but today it's been harder the him around. He woke up with a sor throat. We have a one year old also.

So I got baby up, dressed, then ten mins later dirty nappy, fed. I woke dh at half ten as I have errands to run (39 weeks pg). So I get back to the house, dh reheated a dinner I made, house is a bomb. Dh is mopping about th a long face (Saturdays he usually slopes up to his mothers for dinner and relaxes for the day but I have started to do my own thing sat Mornings as was very resentful)

No washing sorted, kitchen in a tip 'what will I eat ?' Grrrrrr.......

Baby not put down for nap so was crying.

I picked up baby, sorted bottle and down for a nap but now I am raging. What bloody use is he to me. None. A month of this carry on I will be up the walls ..

Preganancy related hormone rant over.

OH YES, to top it off his mother will think he is so good for looking after me at this stage of pregnancy. Fuck sake.

I don't want to LTB, that not an option.

Also I find it hard to forgive (one of my worst traits - I prefer being alone than with people who let me down and that's not good) so I am worried I won't let go of resentment.

It's not even about the housework now. It's the taken for granted thing, the lack of thought. The expectation I do all.

I actually have to say to him change the linen. Or put the shopping away. I know a lot of men are like that (in my own family too) and women I work with of the older generation say 'oh we just get on with it'

"oh we just get on with it"

Well then, I'm sorry, but they've only got themselves to blame. I would say that if he does do the things you tell him to, then it's not quite so bad. Of course you shouldn't have to be the one who's directing proceedings, but with time, you never know, he might just get the message that these things need doing on a regular basis.