Pls tell me lovely things about having 2 under 2!

[Bobian123]

I have a 13 month old DS and am newly pregnant (6 weeks) with DC2. All planned so am pleased, but I'm so focused on the practicalities of it that I wonder whether I'll bond with my belly. With DS I was mooning around rubbing my tummy immediately, creating little playlists just for him that I listened to all the time. This time, although it's still so early, I can't get my head around it and am just worried about how I'm going to cope.

I found a very useful thread on here, which I've bookmarked, about logistics and ways to cope with a smaller age gap (it'll be 21 months) but I would so love to hear the wonderful bits about having two littl'uns close together! Don't get me wrong, I'm aware it won't be a picnic but want to start thinking about some lovely things to come!

Thanks in advance x

Re the busy in the kitchen thing.... we ended up having to take the crib of the base and pop it up on the worktop (we had one away from the cooking/washing up area) as DS1 couldn't be trusted!! He had a tendency to poke PSB in the eyes and he also liked to "share" his snacks with his baby brother. Or sometimes he was happy to go in the play pen himself for a bit anyway - he was only 13 months and curious - he got to interact plenty with the baby under supervision :)

miaow how gorgeous that 'sister' was dd2's first real word!

Thanks again all for these fab posts x

I have an 18 month gap and there is no doubt that it's hard in the beginning but being able to watch them develop and grow together has been the most wonderful experience of my life. My son, now 3, said to his 2 year old sister today 'Best friends' and they are (bar the 'occasional' fight). They are never bored, never without a playmate, never without someone to hug, to hold hands with, to throw a ball to, to explore bugs with. They have a permanent partner in crime and it's a joy to witness.

Your whole world can revolve around their needs because there is a long period of time when their needs are quite similar.

Also the day synchronised naps start is the best day ever.

A slightly different take on this subject ,I am 17 months younger than my sister ,we were best friends growing up and at 49 & 48 are still best friends ,was definitely one of our parents best decisions .

And Miaow the air just rings with laughter, with a few screams and some tears - but it's never quiet. Except when they are plotting something together.

That should read 'Miaow is right the air just rings with laughter'.

Floral that's so lovely to read.

I'm in the same position, 7 weeks pregnant with a 12 month old (although it wasn't planned!). I'm also worried about the bonding thing. I already feel guilty because with DD I was so ecstatic (had been trying to conceive for 12 months), I was constantly looking up how big the baby would be now etc, being so careful with what I ate, dreaming about the new baby. This time my biggest concern is when the bloody sickness will be over and how I'm going to cope! I also feel bad for DD, like I will be cutting short her 'babyhood' and forcing her to grow up too quickly if you see what I mean?

Got 3 month old and 20 month old.
Hardest part was late pregnancy, lifting etc.
Its easier for me now than it was with just my oldest when he was a baby. Not really a shock to the system this time.
At the minute baby spends most of his time on the playmat while toddler potters around.
I have nappy changing stuff in 3 rooms of house.
A good thing is oldest still naps.
I spend most of my days at the supermarket or the big shopping place near us where we go to Starbucks and little one sits in pram

It's fine. It's not a nightmare at all. You'll be alright. What you imagine is much worse than the reality.

As an aside, the oldest spends a day in nursery which is a help

And no jealousy either. Only love

I'm in this too! 6 weeks pregnant and I have a 13 month old.

I am thrilled and terrified (DC1 not a sleeper so we have had some tough weeks over the last few months).

So nice to hear so many lovely stories though.

gotToBe that's exactly the same with me. The other day I had some goats cheese as I though "ah whatever it's probably fine" whereas before I wouldn't have touched it, just in case. I think it is ok, but I felt a bit guilty afterwards that I wasn't showing the same thought (or maybe I'm less obsessive this time?!). Also just want to get over the sickness as well.

I did get my scan date through which made me a bit more excited. And it really is lovely to read these stories here too x

By 3&5 it's amazing