hi mt my dd is younger and has had a few minor bouts of sa. the only way we could get through the first one was to play hide and seek with her and keep calling to her, then going back in the room where she was.
she doesn't really like going to bed cos of being by herself, the way round that one was any time we heard her whimpering (sp?) was to go back as soon as we heard her to reassure her that we were still there and then to leave it gradually longer and longer.
when dp was going to work, the back door is by our kitchen window (we live on gf in flats) so me and dd used to run to kitchen window to wave bye to him (i used to carry her and say quick quick quick) and she used to wave while i was saying "daddy going to work, back soon" and when she would say daddy?" later on, i just used to repeat the same again.
with both of us working, i sometimes have to take her to a cm which i'm not keen on but have to work unfortunately. she will soemtimes try and get out the front door at cm's but me and cm have now picked her up and i tell her that i'm going to work but daddy or me will see her later and go without making fuss or letting her know that we're upset too. the cm will then distract her with toys or cuddles if she needs them and she's usually ok after that she's said.
the best way is to keep calm and to reassure your ds and distracting him. we can't sneak out of house cos she found that one out! but we can leave her sitting on settee (if her cartoons are on) while we go to another room and then come back when we say we will.
sorry for long post but hth x let me know how you get on
fm x