Im sick of being judged and belittled!

[Megamoose795]

I'm a young mum and my daughter is turning 3 in Jan. In a supermarket the other day my LO decided she would throw a tantrum as usual in the supermarket! One lady had the cheek too say too me "behaviour issues are common in children of young single parents, don't fret about it". I was so shocked i picked up my LO and carried her out the store kicking and screaming with out my shopping! I am young yes but that does not change my ability to care for my LO. She assumed i was single!! I am not i am happily living with LOs daddy. How can people be so darn rude!! Feeling down and useless due to that rude lady! :(

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I think a lot of people have opinions OP. They may not be the right ones and they may have the undying urge to share them, that's when the WTF look comes into play. Do the look and walk off. Nothing wrong with being a single parent by the way.

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So thrilled by the new smilies.....when did get added??

Not interested in a row but yeah, asking a woman if she has PMT because she disagrees with something or misunderstands tone (very easily done on forums) is offensive. (And quite unimaginative if youre going for insult) you wouldnt ask a man who disagreed that question. Its quite possible to disagree and that have nothing to do with any hormones at all.

I'm not a young mum anymore (I was) but I still look about 18.

I get the comments 'are you his carer?' (He's disabled)

And when I say no I'm his mum they say
'Really why How old are you?'

It's very rude.

It's standard though, isn't it. Regardless of age or partnership status, people will Judge a Tantrumming Toddler and his/her parent. They just DO. And they will pick on the most obvious-to-them aspect of the situation that they can see - in your case, OP, that you are young. You could have looked too rich, too poor, too smart, too dim, too fat, too thin - you name it.

The thing is though, with the comment in the OP, the lady was clearly trying to be kind and helpful by telling you not to fret about it, even if she did make an incorrect judgement about your marital status.

So take the kindly meant part, and ignore the rest - it's not like she called you a benefit-scrounging scummer or anything equally awful!

I AM one of the older lot but I don't care. I am much much older and still have young kids.

One thing I do know is that it is not helpful for me to get upset and then react in a way which ends up with me feeling it all day and losing out in some way. Like for example leaving the shop without my shopping and then spending time after thinking about the situation. And if I can pretty much guarantee that the 'other' person wouldn't remember any of it!! The only one losing out here is always me.

What I am trying to say is that we have a choice in life. We can dwell on things and let them get to us or we can get up and move on. We can look at the same situation one way or another way.We do that all the time without always realising. One day you son/daughter drives you mad for doing something that they did yesterday and you thought was quite cute.

However, I also know that we all do get in to a place where we can only see how rude and ignorant people are or seem to be. I know coz I do it but I also know that other times I can take things with a pinch of salt and either is OK, no right or wrong