can anyone help pppllleeeaaassseee

[nikie1]

my son is three now and is ok to wee in the toilet but when he comes to do the other he screams for me to put a nappie on him and if i dont he will hold it in i know this is not good ive tried by saying he can poo in his potty but still no has anyone had this with there children

Have you tried lining his potty with a nappy? That sometimes does the trick.

Or if he won't accept that, try telling him that he may have a nappy to poo in, but he must sit on the potty to do so, then, when he's got used to that, take it a step further by lining the potty with a nappy instead of putting it on him.

Above all, do not be upset about it (sorry, impossible I know - do not show him that it upsets you). Try to be blase and not fussed at all.

I have heard of this before, I think it might be more common in older toddlers.
I was thinking you could try him with a potty chair instead of a potty, my DS loves his potty chair and treats it like a little armchair to watch CBeebies.
If you can get him to sit on it and relax, maybe read a story or watch a programme he likes together (with a nappy on) he might feel a bit less scared.
Just doing that everyday for a little while might help him?
Also after he does a poo, you could put it in the potty so he can see it and learn that is normal and then show him the poo going down the loo and wave byebye to it. Make it a bit more fun.
I think with disposable nappies the poo often gets put in the bin and babies don't actually see it or connect it to the toilet.
I'm just guessing, has he said why he is upset by pooing?
I remember seeing something about how toddlers can thing poops are part of themselves, kind of held together by the nappy, so maybe he feels he is actually losing something when the poo goes down the toilet?
Is he at nursery now, or is there pressure to get him ready? Could it be a situation that feels a bit pressurised to him, do you think?
I read a while ago that later potty trainers can get a bit funny about toilet things, and one of the conclusions was that because the parent can communicate better with that age group, than a sub two year old, it can make the parent get more frustrated when it doesn't go well - so the child gets all wierd about the whole thing. I think I put that very scientifically. Anyway, I thought it might be worth mentioning, just to bear in mind.
Oh and I don't know how good they are, but there are videos and books that he might like to see.
Also does he come in with you when you do poos? He might like that if he doesn't, just so he can see it's normal and you are quite relaxed about it, and of course he will think anything mummy does is totally cool.

thankyou for your help i will try this. fingers crossed it works