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No birthday messages for toddler..

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Birkie · 03/10/2006 17:55

DHs family never bother sending DH a birthday card/present etc. She is 2. They think there is no point as she is so little. What do you think?

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SenoraPostrophe · 03/10/2006 17:56

I do tend to agree actually. But if they don't send anything next year I'd kill them.

MarsLady · 03/10/2006 17:56

Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.... how tight!

iamapieceofcheesecake · 03/10/2006 17:56

I don't know about you but I have kept ds 1st and 2nd birthday cards for him to see when he is older. If this is something you do, what will your dd think when she is looking back?

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lulunaticmama · 03/10/2006 18:01

presents for little little ones more for parents benefit - a physical token of their love for their grandkids. both sets of grandparents always got mine something for first birthday - for DD who was one in July, they both bought her a beautiful dress for her birthday celebrations ( she had two parties!!!)
so i would be miffed if nothing had arrived...always keep firsts of everything incl. first birthday cards ...

maybe i am overly sentimental..if you are miffed, i can understand why, but can also see the logic of not bothering either..

LittleScarer · 03/10/2006 18:17

Well my dd wouldn't be bothered but I would be! Partially because I am poor and gifts of clothes especially help!

dmo · 03/10/2006 21:32

i'm
the misable b**
my niece is 5 mths old and i have spent a fortune on her (thats my choice) but its the joy of buying presents for children i love
i'm a childminder and have 3 children who are 2 and knew it was their b/day
i would think the grandparents would want to buy her a doll and a pram

fransmom · 03/10/2006 21:38

she is little, yes but that's no excuse. they seem a wee bit mean, when we buy something for dd we always ask her if she likes it and you should see her face light up it's out of this world seeing that.
i just don't understand them ,sorry

Elibean · 03/10/2006 21:40

I think they could have at least asked you what you thought. I'd certainly have done that in their shoes, if I thought the way they do - though I don't, as it happens.
Maybe it depends on the child, but dd loved her second birthday - she did 'get' the whole idea of birthdays from that experience, and spent the next six months playing 'birthdays' for all her cuddly toys. She also really enjoyed other peoples' birthdays, and 'giving presents' from that day on.

Rowlers · 03/10/2006 21:43

My brother never sent DD a card on her 2nd birthday.
It still bothers me a little.
I'm not materialistic in any way but do value the THOUGHT that comes with a card / present.

Rhubarb · 03/10/2006 21:44

Tight sods!

hermykne · 03/10/2006 21:46

oh something to make it a day she can feel special, a card and a something teeny weeny if their that standoffish about it

Pitchounette · 04/10/2006 08:57

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FillyjonkthePumpkinEater · 04/10/2006 08:59

ok gift-fine really. esepcially if its not going to be something symbolic/lasting.

But no card! Thats just f'cking tight. Why?

Hideehi · 04/10/2006 11:20

Bastards .......... I didn't get a card this year off my mum but i am 31. Guess what she's getting for Christmas

kitbit · 04/10/2006 17:21

oooh that's really mean. ds's 1st birthday was totally magical, we put his pressies and cards in a little pile downstairs so that he came down to find them in the morning of his birthday, and we sang to him. When we started singing he danced around the room with his eyes twinkling and when we showed him how to open a present he thought that was the best thing on earth and opened each thing and played with it for ages before opening the next one and we took loads of wonderful photos to show all his friends and rellies who sent him something. You should have seen his face when he saw his birthday cake and candle! Well, I bet it was the same as every little one's face when they see their birthday cake! That was his first birthday, don't tell me they don't understand what's going on! He clearly felt very special that day and had the biggest grin on his face.

Old meanies.

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Birkie · 04/10/2006 18:12

Thanks for your messages and pleased most of you think it is a bit tight.. I am "warned" in advance that DD won´t get anything and the whole is situation is done without any malice. But is indifference better!?

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anniebear · 04/10/2006 20:49

I think thats awful

I have kept my DD's First Birthday cards

it wouldn't have cost much to buy a small present

I know at 2 they won't understand but mine were still excited unwrapping presents at that age

One of my dd's on her first Birthday opened presents and made funny excited noises everytime she opened a tweenie presents!!! We have that on video..fantastic!

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