I'm new to this - single and literally new to this!!

[rosejoxx]

Hi. I'm very new to this. Just joined and I'm 38 weeks and 1 day with my future baby boy.
I'm 23 and this new mum world is so new to me. I'm not with the dad and I have my mum as my support but she recently got diagnosed with severe ulcerative colitis. So she's up in the hospital herself. Anxiety a kicking in guys. I'm really going to have to do this alone. I salute you all that do it alone - and do it well! But I'm so nervous. Yes it's nature and it's what women are in some ways made for but it doesn't take the anxiety away and it's making sleeping at night a little hard.
Ah I've typed a lot lol - sorry it's 1 I clock in the morn, can't sleep! And just needed to vent.
Thanks x

I had nearly 10 weeks of sleepless nights with her after she was born. That was tough.
I should have just slept when she was asleep but wanted desperately not to turn into a zombie. Also wanted to go for walks during daylight hours every day to get some fresh air and not to be cooked up at home 24/7.

Ps - I would of cried too haha

See I've already been warned to sleep whenever he's sleeping. Otherwise ild turn into the walking dead lol. Guess it's true... Bet it's easier said than done tho!

All depends on your support network.
My exH worked full time and also was studying evenings part time at the same time so 2x a week was home 10 PM.
I was on my own in a new town, I was miserable .

If you have friends you can pop out to see it is going to make all the difference.
I also had my kids in late 90's - in fact I had no internet when my dd was born. You have MN and other places to ask your questions. THis kind of support is invaluable too!

I've been trying to make friends with mums in the area. One has already said that we'll do something together twice a week so we're not stuck in all the time :)

Youre totally right! To be honest. From first writing this post only an hour or so ago to now I feel a little better and I've only just joined!
It just shows you what a lil chat can do sometimes..

I Have moved out of my old area and moved near my mums to look after her so don't really see friends too much.

Make new friends!
Go to baby&mum groups.

Anything to get out of he house is better than being stuck in.

Winter days are miserable with baby which has no sense of day or night

It will give you structure to your day and create routine as well.

Yeah I might just do that.
Become an Essex mum lol! I'll ask midwife about groups ect

Essex mum or not - you need some social life!

Hello OP

My partner has ulcerative colitis and has been hospitalised more than a few times. The first flare up is the worst , they will be able to prescribe drugs for your mum and I bet she'll be in hospital for 2 weeks max, so hopefully your baby will be on time or later !
With the right drugs and your mum making changes to her lifestyle these episodes can be kept at bay , she'll be up and about and feeling fit , helping you with your little one. You are very lucky to have such a supportive mum and all the best to your little family. Please let us know how you get on. X

It's normal to be nervous before the birth but honestly you'll be fine with the midwife I am a single mum but thankfully I had my mum for support, are you living alone and have you got any other family or friends who could maybe stay for a few nights when the baby is born, just to cook some meals for you and keep on top of the washing? I found the first couple of weeks after my dd was born quite overwhelming but did eventually settle into motherhood. I hope your mum is doing okay, I'm afraid I don't know anything about her illness but there's always someone online here if you need some support.

Afternoon guys
Yeah she has been in and out of hosp for 8 months now, been on steroids, she's exhausted every option so she's due to have a full bowell removal as its so severe.
U guys last night made me think and I reached out to my sis in law and asked for a lil help to be on hand if I need it
I've got this nesting thing down to a T I'm up at 8 every morn cleaning and cooking - I've had to move in with my mum to look after her 3 pigs too lol.
I feel bit better about things to be honest and it's mostly down to this lil forum! So bless you all and thank you for bothering to reach out to me.

Really feeling like I just want him out now. I have two weeks left and I'm so uncomfortable. I think that's a bit factor in the sleepless nights too??
I'm trying raspberry leaf tea and cirrus at the moment!! Lol xx

Ah Rose you sound lovely and so mature for your age. I'm not being patronising I promise , at 23 I could barely tie my own shoelaces lol slight exaggeration but you get the picture.

I wish your mum better (the surgery has a very high success rate ) and please let us know when little man arrives x

Aw what a kind thing to say. Thank you love. Some say I'm a lil old for my age and that's without knowin about my nights at bingo haha
I will do. Thanks x