Going dummy-less with a 14 month old

[FoulsomeAndMaggotwise]

DS is 14.5 months. Only has the dummy at nap times and bedtime (unless he's ill in which case he sometimes wants the comfort).

Reasons I want to stop:

He has about half his teeth and I'm worried about problems with formation of the teeth and palette that can be associated with dummies.

He's getting more attached to it the older he gets.

We have another baby due in Feb and don't want him to question why the baby can have a dummy but he can't, so want him to be well and truly over it by then.

Reasons I don't want to stop:

It'll be haaaarrd and he'll crrrrrryyy.

We're moving house (and away from his often seen and much loved nanna) in 3 weeks so not sure it's the best time.

Well it's only naps and sleep, is that so bad?

Any advice on the best time to wean, the best techniques or words of support?

Thanks!

My DS dropped it over night at just over 2 YO. He only had it for naps (which tbf he dropped at 1!) and bedtime

He has gorgeous teeth and was speaking fluently too. Don't cause yourself aggro needlessly!

I was googling and MN'ing for similar advice, but literally he just forgot to ask for it one night. DH and I stood on the landing outside his room, waiting to be shouted. The next night he did ask but we told him he hadn't had it the night before and he accepted this!

Your DS sounds like a dream! Mine is starting to tantrum during the day if I accidentally leave one in sight so I don't think it'll be that easy...

But he's still only 14 months! Honestly I wouldn't fret, I used to liken it to me needing a cigarette in my past life! But then we had LONG days with no naps!

Do what makes you all happiest, he will ditch it one day, I certainly wouldn't try over a house move! You want him to feel familiar and comfy in his new room, and the dummy may help?

If anything a new baby with a dummy can be countered with 'Yes, and youre not a baby, you're my big helper, now go fetch it!'

Good luck with all your exciting new adventures! I'm due our 2nd May!

seriously wait till one night when he drops off without it. Then take it away and keep it away. One of mine was 11 months and the other 17 months.

I got him up this morning, took the dummy out of his mouth and BAM - huuuuuge tantrum that lasted all through changing his nappy, getting him dressed and half of breakfast. He never used to be this attached to it, he never used to want it during the day and now he does. It's becoming the source of most of his tantrums. It has to go.

I got rid of DD1s dummy at 2.5 using dummy fairy method with no problems. I don't like dummies but the fact is they helped her sleep and were a comfort to her. I didn't want to get rid of them any earlier as I knew she would be upset & wouldn't understand. But they never left her bed from when she was about 12mths and she knew that.
If I were you I would not give it to him during day unless he is ill etc and then it slowly weans him off it until you take it away fully.
But good luck whatever you do.

Could you try stopping it for naps and then bedtime later on?