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Should my kids dad provide wen they are with him?

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Mummylala123 · 27/10/2014 15:52

Hi guys need some advice, my children stay with their dad 2 days per wk. I work, he claims benefits whilst also working cash in hand. As he receives benefits I recieve no csa (I cancelled the £5 per wk entitlement it helped in no way bring our kids up) i ask him for nothing as i don't need it. I do ok on my own. The problem is he is not asking that i provide all clothing whilst my kids are with him as he says i recieve all the benefits ie tax credits and child benefits. He is due to have the kids at halloween but says he will only provide a costume for 1 child and I should for the other! I am discusted at the suggestion of this! I spent over £1000 on my daughters communion and didn't ask him for help as I don't need it! When with me it is my responsibility, when with him it is his. Wen they go for the wkend I send 2 outfits so all he really needs to do is provide 2 outfits for the days he gets them from school. I know I'm a good mum and work hard to give my kids all they need whilst in my care. I'm just wondering has anyone else been in this situation or have advice. I am now being told he is taking the matter bk to court (which of course he doesn't pay for) i find this all very childish but there is no reasoning with him. He's right, im wrong (apparently) Angry

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HeadDoctor · 27/10/2014 15:58

Why doesn't he pay to take it back to court? There is no legal aid just for low incomes anymore. And taking what back to court? That you should provide clothes? He won't get far with that.

If this was my ex, I'd report him for working cash in hand, I'd take the £5/week even if I only used it for their pocket money. I would expect him to provide clothes but I wouldn't expect him to provide things for one off events or things they only need one of like school shoes and coats. Is it really worth arguing over one Halloween costume? It wouldn't be worth the hassle for me.

The cost of the communion is irrelevant.

Bedsheets4knickers · 27/10/2014 23:27

If he can't provide for them they shouldn't be in his care x

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