My DS who is 7 is being bullied at school by a 'friend'. He is a quiet little soul, doesn't stick up for himself and can't speak if he is under pressure (ie "say thank you", "what vegetables do you want?"). He doesn't have self esteem issues (he thinks he's brilliant!) and doesn't realise he lacks assertiveness.
His dad is a quiet non-confrontational sort, and I am usually like this too (unless I am really worked up). I also got badly bullied at school.
Weirdly my younger Ds (4) seems to have enough confidence for the rest of us and acts a bit like the family spokes person. In fact, sometimes in awkward situations he's the one who holds it all together and keeps the conversation going and, sadly, we all hide behind him a bit!
Anyway, my older DS could do with a few lessons on assertiveness to help him deal with/ stop the bullying. DH & I could probably do with some too..
How should we go about this? Can you have family lessons in it? Is there a book we can work through together? Help! Thank you!