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"bad table for hurting d/s".. what's the theory?

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manamana · 02/10/2006 10:33

Do you know what I mean? The one where the d/c bangs themselves on an inanimate object and hurts themselves and then the parent tells off the 'naughty table/chair etc' This seems to be quite a widely used technique and I have always been completely baffled by it. My d/s is now 13mo and some of our friends use it, am I missing something???

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manamana · 02/10/2006 10:40

aaah, that makes sense - i may have been taking it too seriously...

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WigWamBam · 02/10/2006 10:41

I've never done that but know people who have - and as dinosaur says it's just a way to distract them and make them laugh - children aren't stupid; they know that the table isn't really naughty and nine times out of ten saying that will stop the tears and make the child laugh.

If it doesn't work for you then don't use it. Do what you feel comfortable with.

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Piffle · 02/10/2006 10:43

we've done it, dd is nearly 4 now and we rarely do it now, but it did work and took her attention from her grief and diverted her promptly.

maggiesmama · 02/10/2006 10:46

although, i did watch a friend do this, and 'smack' the naughty table, and then when her dd got walloped by another kid at nursery, she 'smacked' him and said 'naughty' to him!

serenity · 02/10/2006 10:49

We do it too, good distraction technique imo. My DCs were always huge drama queens and act like they've had something amputated at the slightest scratch (god help us if there is actual blood) It's fun to stand in the street and tell invisble people off for tripping them over, adults think you're mad but it makes the DCs laugh and they like to join in.

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manamana · 02/10/2006 10:55

Serenity that sums it up exactly - I did think my friends were mad but am now realising that i was just missing the joke

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fatfox · 02/10/2006 11:18

We have done this too, when DS or DD hurt themselves on an inanimate object. We've said "naughty table" and given it a good telling off. It deffo worked, ended up with LO looking very satisfied, giggling and forgetting about the pain.

KellyKrueger1978 · 02/10/2006 11:23

pmsl at them trying it with a friend! I've never done that personally, I normally jsut look at whatever it is and say well look its still there then go thru checkign everythign else is present and correct, they giggle and it works.

hulababy · 02/10/2006 11:25

We have done it in the past as a distraction technique. Similarly we used to distract and make laugh with comments like "oh no, poor table...have you made a hole in it? Maybe table needs a plaster....etc" Or when a bit older "oh no, your poor head/arm - do we need to take the whole thing off?" Purely distraction!

Flamebat · 02/10/2006 11:28

I always had DD saying sorry to the table for hurting it with her head We started with "naughty table" but then she got really mean with her telling it off, and it seemed a bad path to go down!!

pablopatito · 02/10/2006 14:18

Well, I've hurt myself on an inanimate object and then told the object to eff off. I've sometimes even kicked it as a punishment. This made me feel better and I'm 34 so I don't see why it wouldn't work on a 2 year old.

Obviously I'd recommend using slightly different language, and kicking an object that you've just hurt yourself on can have the opposite effect to what you're trying to achieve (in my painful experience), but apart from that.

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