Newborns- any advice??

[RainbowInACloud]

I should know better as this is DC3 but I'm finding it so hard.
Is this all normal?
Wanting to be on the boob all the time. He doesn't really like to be put down at all but I would love to be able to put him in the Moses basket at night at least. He wakes within a few minutes of being separate from me.
He also doesn't take long feeds just enough to fall asleep on boob.
He grizzles between around 9pm and 3am doing feeding, falls asleep, wakes as soon as put down and so on. From 3am he will go 2hrs and we get a couple of these in before he wakes around 8am.
I'm a bit tearful and worried about coping and it's only day 4!
I also had a c section so am in pain and feeling sorry for myself.
Any advice please? Thanks

Hi rainbow sorry you're having a tough time, how old is baby?

Sounds very much like my DD was in the first few days, I ended up hand expressing and syringe feeding her a few mls as she was not feeding properly and falling asleep as soon as she latched on and then screaming when I put her down. Topping her up with the expressed milk helped her have a better sleep then she fed better and we broke the cycle.

She was very keen to sleep in me for a good 2 or 3 weeks, then slowly progressed to sleeping on her own. A sling was a lifesaver, once you've healed perhaps worth trying?

All the best

Thank you for answering. I think if it lasted 2-3 weeks I could knuckle down and get on with it.
I've not expressed yet but will consider it.
Baby is only 4 days so not exactly an ongoing problem. I'm just very hormonal and missing my older DC.

It is early days Rainbow give it time. Has your milk come in fully yet? If you are feeling hormonal and tearful it is likely that it is coming in soon. I found once mine did (I have 3 children too, all c section births) then they started going longer between feeds. The incessant feeding brings your milk in. They do it whenever they are having a growth spurt too.

Aw Rainbow are you still in hospital?? Congrats and have a virtual hug!

There's something so desperately lonely about the early days when it's all on you. Especially if you're not home yet (I had a CS too and I felt like I was being left in gaol when DP left to go home in the evenings).

Your lovely LO sounds absolutely normal to me, though I only have the experience of one DD: Constant feeding- CONSTANT- for first week or two. Hungry again 5 minutes after finishing, couldn't put her down etc etc.

Continued cluster feeding and being very fussy in the evenings (3pm until midnight) and then up 2 hourly or so for feeds until about 4/5 weeks, though much less relentless than the first fortnight.

In doing so, though, she built up a phenomenal supply for herself and it's a joy to see her fat little legs now at 6 months.

I do clearly remember blearily feeling like myself again for the first time around 4 weeks in.

It's so so hard in the beginning but pays massive dividends after. You're doing brilliantly

This was me two weeks ago. My daughter is 4 weeks today. It got significantly better during the middle of week 3. (On average last weekend i was getting about 30 mins sleep overnight) however last night she slept from 11pm-1.30pm then i changed and fed her, she settled again just after 2pm and slept until 4am was awake for an hour and then after another feed slept from 5-7.30pm. So i am feeling much more human now.

I just took to sleeping through the day whenever she went to sleep (not sure if yours is the same but my daughter would only sleep on me during the night but would be fine napping in the pram downstairs during the day)

hugs I had a few wailing breakdowns along the 'I'm so tired!' line and just needed a hug at several points. Fast forward 2 weeks and its so much better- i'm sure it'll be the same for you.

Congrats & hugs to you. Yes it's normal but it's time for baby blues & hormones are hard at this time. You will be fine-talk to hv any time you're worried. Just think about getting through the next week or just day or hour & look after yourself x

I found day 4 the worst day for hormonal weeping with all 3 of mine. With ds2 I literally cried all day. Will you get home tomorrow? It's soooooo much better in your own bed.

Thank you. You've made me tearful with your kind responses.
I'm glad it all sounds normal. I remember it being hard with DC1 but DC2 was happy in Moses basket from the start.
He's now added bouts of crying into the mix where he won't latch on due to distress. I think it could be wind but don't want to keep feeding if it makes it worse but also feeding is the only thing that comforts him.
He is super cute though and that's just about getting me through so far.
Thank you again for answering.

Have you tried white noise? DD (5 wks) was driving us to despair with her constant crying, until we tried a white noise app and she settled instantly. I have to say it didn't work for her in the first week of life where she just wanted to feed constantly, but tried again at 4 weeks and it's like flicking a switch. Now we can play her gentle music and it soothes her.

Hope it settles for you soon!

Also the midwives suggested infacol for the wind, which I think makes a difference, but I'm not sure!