Should I send thank u notes?

[Jennymummy12]

Dd aged 5 just had birthday with school friends. Got some lovely presents at party. Should I send in thank us for her to hand out? No idea if the etiquette!

I always do and I have twins so twice the fun

I feel if someone is kind enough to give a present its polite to do a proper thank you

however we do design and print our own with space for gift, persons name and child's name, which they write

We do thankyou cards (well I do, DTs are only 3!). We have a board at nursery where we pin invitations, so I pin the thank yous up there too.

In maybe 20 or so nursery parties over three years, only one other parent has done thank you notes. So if you can't be bothered, I don't think they'll be missed by many. But I want my kids to know a proper thank you is important, so we do thank you notes together (they draw lovely swirly patterns on A5 paper, I fold them in half and write the insides).

I do, but I have only ever had Thank You notes from 3 other parents in 6 years of parties.

Now that ds is 6 I mske him sign them and write the full letter for grandparents.

My children always wrote thank you letters & we almost always received them. It is only now they are in secondary school that I don't see the thank you letters but I now they still write/receive them.

Ok thanks all - will do the thank u's . Will basically be me writing and dd signing her name. Just didn't want anyone thinking I was dirt of prolonging her b'day or trying to show up anyone who didn't bother. But didn't want to seem rude either!

I think the other posters are right but tbh I hate getting thank you cards! Waste of money, waste of paper and for little ones, not even from the child but written on behalf of them which I find a bit weird. And what am I supposed to do with them? If I've had a verbal thanks then that's enough... yet I send them as everyone else does. Honestly, every time I get one I think 'oh great'! Am I the only one?

Tbh I think its bad manners not to send them; wouldn't make me not give a gift (esp in relation to children) in the future but still...

I tend to send mine on photos of DD (she's only 2) so if its family they can keep the picture. I'm aware its going in the bin the majority of time but I feel if someone has taken the time to purchase a gift its appropriate to acknowledge it!

Slightly OT but we went to an old school friends wedding in July and gave them a substantial monetary gift (they asked for cash). We've seen them since - no verbal thank you and no thank you card. That peeve's me greatly!

What ch1134 said. They are just clutter. DD likes doing them though

Yes. I do thank you cards for DS (2) to everyone except people we can thank personally- grandparents etc
Our godson and his brother never thank us for their presents. This is annoying me so much I will only buy them pound shop presents now- I used to spend £10 each! I'd stop altogether if I could

It's polite and I think it teaches them good manners.

Amazon do great packs of thank you cards which DC then only have to write the name of the person they are thanking and signing it. Much less painful!