how will I cope on my own

[SophieJoe2014]

hi my little one is 11 days old and my oh has 2 weeks left off from work and I'm terrified that I will not cope with him not around. I burst into tears of the thought of him not being around. He has been amazing from the first minute and I'm just on an emotional roller-coaster thinking I'm no good . will this feeling go?

Well done, that's brilliant-that will help you when he goes back as you know you can do it.

You'll be back to yourself and being an active mum in no time, as PP have said, hormones and tiredness are playing a massive part in how you're feeling at the moment and when the hormones subside and you adjust to the tiredness, you'll start to come out of the baby fog. I remember crying because I'd had to change DD on the floor of a coffee shop toilet as they didn't have a baby change and what a bad mother I was for taking her somewhere without proper facilities when she was only 2 weeks old - she is now 3 years old and would happily lay on a toilet floor if I wasn't there to stop her!

It all seems overwhelming sometimes - I promise you'll get to grips with it all quicker than you think.

I'm sure I will, I'm starting to feel more like a mum and less like a robot since I had the day with dd alone today and my oh let me have a full nights sleep and used up the bottles I had made in the fridge :) that was until my breasts decided to explode at 6 am lol

well after days if crying and stress I am on weekly watch by doctors and health visitor for pnd.
I don't want to go down that route so I am trying to fight the feelings I'm having. hopefully I will pick up as I don't want to be 'diagnosed' with anything

Just go easy on yourself Sophie. I'm just like you, hate to be diagnosed with anything. I suffered horrendous panic disorder years ago and did everything I could to avoid medication etc. It's not always possible but do whatever it is that makes you feel positive about things however small it is and try to keep some fight in you. I used to find it helped to get angry with my feelings. Sort of like "I refuse to let you get the better of me!" Accept help from anyone that will give it! Remember there will be an end to how you're feeling now and things will get better. I was borderline PND with my first son and the first 6 weeks of his life were rough with a LOT of tears and insomnia but things eventually improved on their own and with the support of family and friends. Hang in there but don't fear a diagnosis as it's not forever!

Well done on getting out.
I was really daunted too but after 6 weeks, I seemed to get into the swing of things.

Ask your health visitor for any info on groups you can go to. There are probably some post natal, new parents or brestfeeding support groups you can go to.

I found if I had some contact with people or got out every day really helped.

I'm starting to see light at the end of the tunnel.
I have a group to go to wilth little one, start next week and I'm coming to terms with the fact my oh has to go back to work soon. it helps massively that me and him seem to be getting back to pre pregnancy us :)
I thought my life was going to be like the few couple of weeks forever.
thanks for all your support guys